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    Welcome to the message board fellow Aussie. I don't know if this is the right one for you based on your quote. I 'm sure there is a message board for relationship problems which would probably be more appropriate. I don't know about cheating husbands but cheating boyfriends , yes. My boyfriend's utility broke down. I was in hospital , yet again, with depression when he announced his ute had died. I , with out a second thought , offered him the use of my Hyundai. Only later did I find out that he was using my car to ferry his other girlfriend around ! He thought he had a golden goose in me. I was a professional and earned a good salary, I loved his daughter and he could laze on the lounge with his phoney chronic pain, drink booze and I would take care of him and raise his daughter. So he thought. I set him straight about that one and told him what a pathetic loser he really was. He actually had the gall to ring me last year because his dog ran away with the dog I gave his daughter. He asked how I was going. I told him that I was , " moving in with my fiance next week and going to back to university to study Law." He never called again !

     I would never trust a person who cheated on me. They will always do it again. Get over him and find a new direction for your life. Obviously he is not interested in your feelings or human rights. You have the right to be respected. He has disrespected you in major way. We all make mistakes but that I personally could not forgive. I would always be wondering when it was going to happen again. If you don't have trust you have nothing.  Try seeing a counsellor about dealing with the devastation you are feeling and tips for turning this around and into your defining moment. Amazingly some Women have only truly found their real passion and potential when an event such as this occurs. Your life is more than the sum total of assets and possessions you share with him. You are the only person in your life who will never let you down. Find that silver lining in this cloud and use to your advantage.    Donna. Xxxx