Quote From: ritehere Hi Brenda, and thanx, I'm better now.
I was hit by cold chills when I read your post. I've had "coincidences" happen to me all of my life, and some are downright eerie.
I'm currently reading a book called MONSTER LIES by Sally Franz and Jennifer Webb.
In my opinion it is a great companion piece to SELF MATTERS, in that in expounds on the chapter where Dr Phil has you slow down your thinking and pinpoint the tapes you play in your head that undermine you.
And here you were, examining your own negative thinking, and labeling old thinking as MONSTER. Wavelengths or what?
In the book, our patterns of thought are catagorized and given a name, description, and even a distinctive sounding voice. They are all monsters. Although the authors have identified over 75 monsters that we fall prey to, they deal with the 12 most common patterns that our thoughts fall into. I think you would benefit from this, Brenda.
For those that get stuck in the chapter dealing with our tapes, this is an excellent resource. I urge you to look for this book. I found it at the library, but I'm going to buy it as I can see that I will refer to it often.
One of the things I've found posting to this site is that no matter where someone else is on their journey, they bring me moments of AHA .. especially if I find myself responding to their written words. Sometimes, I'm just flowing and simply let many posts go. THen there are times, I'm very reflective and allow myself to see what I write and what I recall as I write.
I learned to slow down my thoughts when I read and re-read Key 2. I was doing both Self Matters and Weight Loss Solutions at the same time so they came together quite well there.
Your words about "our patterns of thoughts" sounds like what I do .. I name my thought patterns ... like CATCH UP or CONFLICT. My namings allowed me to group together behaviors, feelings, & thoughts under 1 word so that as I continued to experience them, I was able to simply say ... CONFLICT ... and know what I had to do to stop it from happening.
I'll see if my library has the book ... Thanks Linda
