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May 27, 2007, 9:36 pm PDT
 Quote From: juliebgg Hi "Simply"!!! Didn't you sort of feel like you were al of a sudden thrust into the twilight zone? That nothing seemed real that was happening to you at work? That is how I felt at a previous job I had many years ago where I had been known for doing a great job. Then a new boss took over and all of a sudden, nothing I did was right and she wrote horrible evaluations about me and gave me a difficult time with everything. And it doesn't even mean you are doing your job poorly. Just ONE person can take a dislike to you for any ridiculous reason. And then make life miserable for you at work Yes, I too started getting the cold shoulder from people who I used to eat lunch with and have a good relationship with. And I was out of the loop with communications too. I just recently gave notice at my current job....things aren't nearly as bad here as that job I had many years ago, but I feel that my current boss plays favorites and is not very appreciative--atleast not until I gave my notice------of everything I do. I don't know if you have a quiet personality, but I think that we are much more susceptible to workplace bullies. They think that we won't fight back. So we have to show them that we will!!! I'm glad those vicious people at your job got fired. Did you ever wonder if one of them messed up the accounts while you were out on leave and then tried to pass the blame on to you? Wouldn't be at all surprised. Things don't always work out that nicely where the bullies get fired. It didn't happen in my case But I did report some of my boss's shenanigans to some higher ups.. Atleast I gave themsomething to think about and it made things uncomfortable for her for a while. You were smart to get out of that job. It isn't worth risking your health for and you and your family come first. I hope things are better for you now! Good luck. JB I think I'm also in the twilight zone. Had 2 very bad experiences in the medical field in the past couple years, it's happening now and I'm worried how this is going to affect my future jobs. I have been looking up "workplace bullying" on the web and it seems to be an escalating problem. The doctor I work for now is very knowledgable and can be very personable, but he is also a mean, thoughtless, rude, and crude person who zeroes in on people's weaknesses and mentally tortures them, apparently just because he CAN. I kept asking myself "WHY?" I'm a nice lady, I try my best on my job, try to do the right thing, why is he targeting ME? You may have something there, about some of us being susceptible because we have quieter personalities and we want to get along and live and let live--but the bullies aren't like us--they WANT to stir up problems--they seem to thrive on it! They seem, according to the websites on bullying that I visited, to actually seek out people who do have good work ethics and are reasonable and intelligent. I think maybe I'm being picked on because I'm like the little boy who blurted out that "The Emperor doesn't have new clothes on--he's just naked!." (Remember that fairy tale--The Emperor's New Clothes"?) I'm the one in the office who said, The boss doesn't have a "dry wit" or a "weird sense of humor"--no one's laughing at his "jokes," which are really just insults--it's not funny--he's just a bully. I saw through the bullying and said so. I'm honest and really don't know how to suck up to people or, excuse my language, be a butt-kisser. So they want to kill the messenger. Do a Google-search on workplace bullies & see what you come up with. Very enlightening. |
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