Quote From: anon_slcThere is a common belief that disputes including legal disputes are about issues -- the bigger issues drive bigger, more difficult conflicts. The decision to pursue a highly adversarial legal approach requiring the use of many legal procedures (deposition, subpoenas, hearings, and a trial) are often the result of a high conflict personality. High conflict personalities often determine the direction of the entire case. Some of my favorite books which provide a great introduction and insight are:
High Conflict Personalities: Understanding and Resolving Their Costly (Legal) Disputes by William A. Eddy
Why is it Always About You? The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism by Sandy Hotchkiss AND Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation and Guilt to Manipulate You by Susan Forward
Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Know Has Borderline Personality Disorder by Paul Mason and Randi Kreger
How to Journal for Therapy:
http://arar.essortment.com/therapyjournali_repu.htm
While some of this information is designed for legal professionals, mental health professionals, mediators, and other dispute revolvers, this information is also written for the average person who may be stuck in a dispute with a high conflict personality, or cares about someone who is involved in one.
Hope it helps!
I'm gonna check them out, thanks.
Now, I know why I am interested in this story (but not so much as some other similar tales of this genre) -- it may sound cruel, but it is a relief from the real world and real news.
Yes, I am sorry for her children, both her dead son, whom I think she abused emotionally by demanding that he be all to her - son, father, boyfriend (and I don't know how far that went) and her daughter, who has come into a very nasty personal world.
