Quote From: ritehere I was wondering if you would catch that. When I read the book, I thought of you.
It took me a long time to figure out that you had names for attitudes and patterns of thought. I never really understood why you did that until I read this book.
I think you'll relate to it and enjoy it.
For me Linda, I found that I just couldn't put what I was feeling or experiencing into one word ... I felt all sorts of stuff and my reactions were the same ... and I found that I was experiencing it over and over again so I named it so that I didn't have to spend so much time and energy figuring out what I needed to do. Like Dr. Phil says, DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT ... and that was as different as I could get.
Let me know if they go into "emotional memory tapes" ... those are when you experience te emotional memories and can not put an exact "real memory" to it. Dr. Phil never talks about that .. however, I quickly discovered in 2005 that what I was experiencing had nothing really to do with an event .. just the emotions that I went thru. Like BEDROOM ... when I start to remember this bedroom ... then I know I'm experiencing emotional memories and I need to do different. It has so many memories of me lying in that room angry and in pain and unable to do anything because I was a kid and I couldn't stand up for myself ... like Dr. Phil says ... survival and safety is the number 1 issue for kids. Now I know that what was happening at those times was my mom experiencing PMS ... cause there was too much space in between the epsoides and it only happened on weekends ... that's about the only time I saw her because she worked afternoons.
I'm glad you are able to understand where I was coming from. Me, I want to see if any of my namings match up to their's.
