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September 25, 2005, 8:49 am PDT

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Well I dont know where to begin really. This is my first message.  I am 21 and 2 weeks after my 19th bday my dad had enough with my so called chosen lifestyle. So, the christian counseling didnt work out the way he wanted, so he took my house key and my new car at the time away from me thinking  that would chage my feelings and make me straight.  OMG Well little did he know that I had another thing coming. I am doing better . I still have my moments. Holidays are pretty tough. My first Christmas ...not getting nothing at all...just a card basically telling me im going to hell doesnt sound to loving if you aske me....and not a thing for my bday was even harder. I just never thought that something like this would ever happen to me.  Dad and I have not talked in 2 years.  Mom isnt thrilled but she tells me that it would have been different if she had some say so in what to do with my sexuality. My brother that is 25 is not having anything to do with me either. A month after coming out, my brother says he is called by god to preach!!  How ironic is that. So fake lol. The family just laughs about it still to this day.  I would love to here from anyone out there ...their story or if they have anything to ask me or commits about my little life story.      One thing i have learned....sometimes in order to gain something. you have to lose something
 Very good for you! I'm very impressed you had the nerve to tell your church family. My parents are very supportive people and I'm still scared to tell them.
 We joke about my problem (so I don't know if mom knows I'm serious) but shes against it when I bring it up for my best interests; she feels my life will be miserable if I choose to persue my feelings. My folks arent big church people so I don't have to worry about the whole "Your going to Hell" thing.
 I think you did good to get away and go about your life without them. Sometimes its the best thing to do.. I kinda wish I could move away for a while to think about things (alas, I'm 15...)
And (from what I got out of your story) your parents seemed to be more concerened aout there reputation with the church than your well-being. i've known amany people on the net who were gay and had to hide it from their parents, and they were all very miserable; so I congradulate you on comming out.
And if your worried about your families words, don't be. If you were born gay, you cant help it. God made you gay, so how can he send you to hell for it?
So go out and find that life partner, get illegaly married, and be happy!
 
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November 9, 2005, 12:38 pm PST

hiya

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Well I dont know where to begin really. This is my first message.  I am 21 and 2 weeks after my 19th bday my dad had enough with my so called chosen lifestyle. So, the christian counseling didnt work out the way he wanted, so he took my house key and my new car at the time away from me thinking  that would chage my feelings and make me straight.  OMG Well little did he know that I had another thing coming. I am doing better . I still have my moments. Holidays are pretty tough. My first Christmas ...not getting nothing at all...just a card basically telling me im going to hell doesnt sound to loving if you aske me....and not a thing for my bday was even harder. I just never thought that something like this would ever happen to me.  Dad and I have not talked in 2 years.  Mom isnt thrilled but she tells me that it would have been different if she had some say so in what to do with my sexuality. My brother that is 25 is not having anything to do with me either. A month after coming out, my brother says he is called by god to preach!!  How ironic is that. So fake lol. The family just laughs about it still to this day.  I would love to here from anyone out there ...their story or if they have anything to ask me or commits about my little life story.      One thing i have learned....sometimes in order to gain something. you have to lose something

 well, this is also my first time to post the message.. im 22, im bi-sexual right now im date beautiful girl of three year... this month or last month i told my bro he his 20.. he dnt want to deal with it cuz its just my business who i fall in love wiht but another than this we talk about anything expect my life which its hard to do everyone expect me to be who they want to be.... so i am first time date a girl, so i was think same thing what u said about nothing, wht im say is my bro think my life will be hard but i dt think so cuz its not their business to tell what to do or whatever...  i feel so good to be true to myself... so yea u're right u have to gain something but ready to lose something... heh im look for anyonoe to talk about it u know.... i have not told my mother yet which iknow she is disappoint with me on anyting i chose... cuz i know my life is hard than they know or think... so  hope anyone reply me back to talk about it, i dnt have anyone else to talk about it so.... expect my gf.... 

  

  

 
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March 7, 2006, 2:26 pm PST

My story is different

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Well I dont know where to begin really. This is my first message.  I am 21 and 2 weeks after my 19th bday my dad had enough with my so called chosen lifestyle. So, the christian counseling didnt work out the way he wanted, so he took my house key and my new car at the time away from me thinking  that would chage my feelings and make me straight.  OMG Well little did he know that I had another thing coming. I am doing better . I still have my moments. Holidays are pretty tough. My first Christmas ...not getting nothing at all...just a card basically telling me im going to hell doesnt sound to loving if you aske me....and not a thing for my bday was even harder. I just never thought that something like this would ever happen to me.  Dad and I have not talked in 2 years.  Mom isnt thrilled but she tells me that it would have been different if she had some say so in what to do with my sexuality. My brother that is 25 is not having anything to do with me either. A month after coming out, my brother says he is called by god to preach!!  How ironic is that. So fake lol. The family just laughs about it still to this day.  I would love to here from anyone out there ...their story or if they have anything to ask me or commits about my little life story.      One thing i have learned....sometimes in order to gain something. you have to lose something
It is very disappointing to me when a parent chooses to use religion to reject their own child.  The rejection is not Biblically based or supported.

My story is different from yours in this way.  I did not come out to my parents until I was 40.  I was raised in a very strict family and my father is a preacher.  My upbringing would have made Southern Baptist look like liberals.  When I came out to my parents, there was no judgement or anger.  There was love and support and understanding.  My parents have welcomed my partner (when I had one) both to their home and treated him as a member of our family.  He was also welcome to attend church with my parents and was introduced as my partner to others at church.

Just because the religious beliefs are very strict, still when the pattern of life is based on the Bible, rejection is not an option.  Acceptance, love, and understanding without judgement is the only path that can be taken.

Remember this, the rejection by your partents and siblings are their issue and not yours.  
 


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