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February 22, 2006, 8:27 am PST
Once a cheat always a cheat
Quote From: qqqhhhHold on a minute...
This guy lied to his wife about you. He lied to you. He has waffled seemingly repeatedly about his "ex". He blames YOU for finding out about HIS lies?? He is STILL shirking responsibility for his behavior.
Come on...
Wise up. A liar is a liar is a liar. Promises from a liar are CRAP.
He wasn't committed to his wife and, if the past is any guide, he won't be committed to you.
He is more focused on HIM. He feels guilty about cheating on her but what about feeling guilty about how he's treating YOU? He sabotaged his last relationship and he's sabotaging this one.
I think giving him an ultimatum of stop seeing the Ex or I'm going to take away your child is, frankly, cruel to the child -- even if the baby isn't born yet. He IS your child's father and the child deserves to have a relationship with BOTH parents. Regardless of whether you commit to this man or not, the reality is... you will now be tied to the father of your child forever -- like it or not. I think you made your bed and now you are having to live with it.
I also want you to realize that you are ENTITLED to 100% of your feelings. He is minimizing how you feel and that is unfair. I tended to get "hormonal" during my pregnancies HOWEVER that does not mean that my feelings are simply invalid. Tell him to stop discounting your feelings.
My two cents... Q Hun - if you got him away from his wife then someone else will get him away from you - dump the guy NOW ! I would have had an abortion and told him to stay with his wife. Why do women always feel that it is ok to sit back and let the MAN decide what is best for your life?
Tell him to get the divorce final - and marry you - if thats what you want - and give him a date to do so - well before the 10 weeks the baby if due - and stick to it. If by that date he hasnt gotten the divorce, then let him come home and find all of his stuff in boxes on the front lawn and the locks and phone number changed to an unlisted one.
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