Replies to '04/12 Twin Tug of War'

Camera I do appreciate that you have a dissenting opinion, however your words sound cruel and steeped in anger over what has happened in your own family.

Perhaps, as the PP mentioned, the adoptive parents should have taken a moment to question their choice to ignore Allison's desperate attemps to revoke the adoption...an adoption that she signed in a moment of deep despair and that she IMMEDIATELY tried to revoke. 

This case is a lot different than a mother whose children are removed from the home, and then she wants them back because she got her life together finally.  It is a lot different from even the mother who planned and chose adoption all through pregnancy and then month after the birth changed her mind.   And in many states, both of those above scenarios is completely plausible, if not actually common.  In Florida, the laws are archaic at best...and just do NOT have the children's interest in mind as you say is tanamount.

Lastly, I do agree that an 18 month old has developed strong bonds, however I also know that there is strong evidence in the general adoption psychology literature that proves new bond formed even as toddlers can be as strong and healthy as those formed wtih parents who have had children since infancy.  Many international adoptions are actually OF kids who are in that age range and I'd bet their adoptive families would be offended at the notion that they don't have a bond with the child.  I also would argue that the children themselves would not recall the situations that happened in their life at around 18 mos to 2 yrs of age, so without any proof of long-term issues in children whose home/parent situation has changed as a toddler, I can't support your position that Allison is HARMING her babies in any way.

If you can share some documentation of detachment and paranoia in a large sample size of children moved from one home to another at 18 mos, then I will stand corrected.  If not, then I don't think your own situation is representative of what would happen to the Quets twins.

And why in the world would their own mother not have the "right" (as you put it) to raise her children?  She has attemtped to change custody starting right after she was talked into signing adoption papers.  Was taking them to Canada smart?  No way.  But I still support her desire to regain rightful custody of her own babies--custody that really, in the end, was only stripped of her because of very backward adoption laws...laws that most certainly do NOT follow Soloman.