Quote From: luvnmykids
I had to comment on this subject. Currently my son sleeps with me and my husband. This started when he was 8 months old. He was sick and I was scared that he would choke while he was in his crib and I wouldn't hear it. Well now he is 3 1/2 and still in our bed. If we try to make him lay in his own bed he cries and screams that he is scared. I don't have the heart to let him cry himself sick so he ends up in bed with us. If anyone has any advice on how to get him out of our bed I would really appreciate it. I am expecting another baby in 3 weeks, so my nights are already restless. I love cuddling with my son, but I also like to be able to cuddle with my husband from time to time. We have tried the whole.."letting him fall asleep in our bed and moving him to his bed later" but he is usually back in our bed about 2-3 hours later. Another thing I have wondered is...he loves to play with my hair and in the middle of the night if he is starting to wake up he grabs my hair and holds on to it and falls back asleep. Please...someone help me. I am open to all advice and suggestions at this point. Thanks a bundle.
Suzy, I am not expert on childrearing and I don't pretend to be. But this statement said a lot:
"I don't have the heart to let him cry himself sick so he ends up in bed with us."
That is the whole issue. If he thinks that if he cries long enough you will go and get him, he's going to continue to cry until you do. As Dr. Phil says, he has your number and he's dialing it. For one night, let him cry. He won't get sick. He won't perish. He'll realize that you mean what you say when you tell him it is time for him to sleep in his own bed. And no, I don't think it is being cruel. I can remember when I was a kid not getting something I wanted and crying. When I didn't get it and realized my crying was getting me nothing but a red, wet face, I stopped.
As I said, just my two cents. I do hope things get better for you soon.
