Quote From: lifeluverI'm 33 years old and have been with my husband since I was 16 and he was 19 years old, we had our first daughter when I was 17.For several years we fought all the time because he was jealous.I don't think people realize that the mistrust of your partner doesn't just hurt feelings it kills the spirit.I had always been an extremely happy person,until accusations brought me lower than I thought I could get and alot of it was that he thought if i wasn't jealous then I didn't love him,after about 13 years he finally realized that the only person that could truly make him happy was him and that my motto "I DON'T HAVE TIME TO BE MAD" isn't because I don't have time for him it is because I love to laugh, and if I'm mad,sad or crying I can't be happy or laughing and without laughter there would be no reason for life.So for everyone in a relationship go watch americas funniest videos and remember you must give to receive.
I have the same motto - since tragedy struck my family. I lost a brother who lived on Maui - when I went there to see the palm trees planted for him (he was the victim of a shooting - a stray bullet hit him) I discovered what life REALLY is all about. Hence the name ... mauilover - I noticed your name had luver too - it is the only way to live. I was also married and a mom young. I'm 37 and have been with my amazing husband for 20 YEARS !!!!!!! In addition to what you said, another word of advice to the young couple ....
Spend as much time with each other and grow your beautiful relationship - because in 20 years... and yes I am there :) it will be the two of you still. Friends come and go but through it all - the two of you are still standing, holding hands and loving each other. Your child (ren) will grow up and then it will still be the two of you - the best gift you can give to each other AND your family. We welcomed friends into OUR lives but always made sure our relationship was the priority. You owe it to your child to do this too.
