|
September 23, 2005, 7:44 pm PDT
Hope this helps
Quote From: atlswanSuzy, I am not expert on childrearing and I don't pretend to be. But this statement said a lot:
"I don't have the heart to let him cry himself sick so he ends up in bed with us."
That is the whole issue. If he thinks that if he cries long enough you will go and get him, he's going to continue to cry until you do. As Dr. Phil says, he has your number and he's dialing it. For one night, let him cry. He won't get sick. He won't perish. He'll realize that you mean what you say when you tell him it is time for him to sleep in his own bed. And no, I don't think it is being cruel. I can remember when I was a kid not getting something I wanted and crying. When I didn't get it and realized my crying was getting me nothing but a red, wet face, I stopped.
As I said, just my two cents. I do hope things get better for you soon.
Hi luvmykids, I hope this helps in some small way. You know what? I have a 13 year old daughter and a 7 year old son...and my daughter never really had any issues with wanting to sleep with us, but our son did. I was thinking when I read your message about how differently I raised both of them. I think the fact that I had a certain type of routine for our daughter, helped her to adjust better to her bed. I remember I would play with her for a few minutes...then we brushed teeth, went potty and finally a bedtime story where I literally sat on her bed and read to her. I then kissed her goodnight, lights out, and that was it. LOL, with our son...I think I became a bit more lazy...he still comes in now and then...but not very often. The problem is I am such a sound sleeper, that I don't even know he is there until morning and my husband works at night most nights, so that leaves me not much choice but to accept it. I wish I didn't sleep so sound. Anyhow, back to your question...I think that a routine might help. It's a toughie...I know. Been there done that..Good luck to you. By the way, I love your "luvmykids" user name..I love my kids too!
|
