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April 19, 2007, 6:14 pm PDT
 Quote From: lovemyson05 I was 17 when I had my son, who is now 5 1/2, and I can't imagine a single day in these past years without him in my life. From the moment I found out I was pregnant, everything changed. That was it for me. No more drinking, no more smoking, no more partying......and I would just assume this wouldn't be a difficult decision for any mother to make, and to continue with once their little life has been brought into the world. NEVER would my son not be my FIRST priority. I can't recall a single time when I was just itching to get out and 'party' and leave my son with someone other than me. Why would someone NOT want to be with their child?! I just do NOT get it, at all. I would MUCH rather hang out with my little man, then leave him at the drop of a dime because some friends called me for a night out. Elise said she's been hanging with a new crowd recently, in my opinion they can't be any better than the other crowd except for minus the drinking if that's even true. She should have friends who are fully aware that she's a mother to a very handsome 8yr old boy, and understand that she has responsibilities. Whether she wants to acknowledge them or not. Her mother should not help to support all her awful habits in any way! I don't doubt that she's a great grandmother to Elise's son, but there is still such a difference. He needs his mom, and more so he needs his mom to want to be his mom. That's GREAT, I mean that, you've missed out on somethings, but you've gained something priceless. You are doing the right thing and for that I applaud you. I do belive there are too many out there who seem to think raising a child is no big deal, NOT TRUE, Girls, please if you're going to be sexually active, PROTECT YOURSELF and think of how well, be honest with yourself, you are able to raise a child on your own ( chances are Daddy will be around for as long as its convinient ) will your parents be able and willing to look after another baby while you sow your wild oats ? I gurantee your friends won't be waiting for you while you sit home because YOUR parents cannot babysit for you, and dealing with CPS because you have your child or have left your child in a dangerous situation, won't be pleasent. Are you prepared to give up on your dreams ( not impossible, but quite difficult to go to University with a baby attached to your hip ) and can we be realistic, how many of these girls graduate HIGH SCHOOL. There are many success stories, and many girls who get their heads on straight, but there are many more that DO NOT and for those children (both the girls and their children ) its a waste. Ask Honestly "Am I ready to be a PARENT ", anyone with a womb (I should say Almost anyone) can make a baby, not a hard concept to grasp, but not everyone can be a PARENT and really girls its not as glamorous as it looks, Brittany Spears has NANNIES, I highly doubt she does much of the dirty work. Look, I don't preach virginity until marriage, my own kids can attest to that. Both my boys know though, if you're stupid enough to belive her that she's on the pill,or unable to have kids (how many 16 year old girls need to go for fertility testing exactly ) then you are responsible for the end result, and I told my daughter if you're stupid enough to belive he's sterile, or he'll pull out in time, then you are again resposible for the end result, PROTECT YOURSELF. Kudos to the teen girls who have grown up and taken their resposibility seriously and to their families willing to give them the help and support they need. |
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April 20, 2007, 5:50 am PDT
Quote From: lovemyson05 I was 17 when I had my son, who is now 5 1/2, and I can't imagine a single day in these past years without him in my life. From the moment I found out I was pregnant, everything changed. That was it for me. No more drinking, no more smoking, no more partying......and I would just assume this wouldn't be a difficult decision for any mother to make, and to continue with once their little life has been brought into the world. NEVER would my son not be my FIRST priority. I can't recall a single time when I was just itching to get out and 'party' and leave my son with someone other than me. Why would someone NOT want to be with their child?! I just do NOT get it, at all. I would MUCH rather hang out with my little man, then leave him at the drop of a dime because some friends called me for a night out. Elise said she's been hanging with a new crowd recently, in my opinion they can't be any better than the other crowd except for minus the drinking if that's even true. She should have friends who are fully aware that she's a mother to a very handsome 8yr old boy, and understand that she has responsibilities. Whether she wants to acknowledge them or not. Her mother should not help to support all her awful habits in any way! I don't doubt that she's a great grandmother to Elise's son, but there is still such a difference. He needs his mom, and more so he needs his mom to want to be his mom. See, this is how I would feel if I were a parent. My WORLD would revolve around my child! I don't understand wanting to go out and party rather than being there for my child either. You sound like an awesome mom, this is what Elise should be like, IMO!
I feel really bad for the 8 yo son! He's jealous of his cousin and wishes his aunt was his mom. How sad! If her friends were really her friends, they'd tell her out right to take better care of her baby boy! |
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