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I will share a story with you about my first marriage and I hope you can learn from this.

I was married to man just like your husband...He controlled everything in my life. He took the phone to work with him, he always had the car and when he was at home he kept the car keys in his pocket, he kept my D/L , birth certificate and social security card.  He would stop by the house all the time during the day to make sure I was home and alone. I could not talk to friends or family ever. And he finally moved us away from my family.

He would always say I was cheating on him and talking about him behind his back...which I never understood, since I was locked away alone everyday.  At least once a week I got a good beating because I was cheating or the house work was wrong or I ask him to help bath one of the kids.  

This went on for a few years and the control got worse and worse...and the beating got almost deadly.  I finally worked up the courage to leave with our 3 babies the night he came home drunk and threw a knife at me while I was sitting on the couch.  I let him pass out and I went and gathered up my kids...1 y.o., 2 and 3 y.o....I ran to a neighbors and begged him to take me to a friends home.   I was hoping we were safe and had begun to think he would not find us, until I heard the banging on the front door. I begged my friend and her husband to call the cops, but they were afraid of my x-husband. He kicked the door in and held my friends husband at knife point and told me to get into the car or he would cut my friends husbands throat.  I had no doubt that he would do just as he said, so I got into the car. That was the biggest misstake I ever made!!!  Once we got home, he put the kids back into the bed and comfronted me with a hammer. I was backed into a corner of the kitchen and he beat me on the top of my head with that hammer.   My son walked out of the room and saw what was happening and ran to the neighbors for help. The neighbor came in my home with a gun and held my x-husband there til the police arrived to arrest him.

Needless to say, he went to prison fro attempted murder and my 3 y.o. son had to testify against his own father.  And I have left out a great many grusome details from this story...but I think you get the picture.

Your life is in danger! Get out now!!! I beg you to get out.  I can see where your life is heading and your husband could be very dangerous! 

I am willing to bet he has told you, "If you ever leave me I will kill myself or I will kill you."  Those are the same things I was told almost daily. 

I am scared for you. I have not thought about my past for a great many years now, but after reading this story it has all come back to me very fresh. Please listen to someone who has been where you are now. And don't say it could not happen to me. I said that right up to the point the hammer was hitting my head.  It can happen to you. It happens to women everyday.  I was lucky, I lived. But so many women out there do Not live. Don't be one of them!