Replies to '04/26 Obsessive Love'
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April 26, 2007, 1:38 pm PDT
 Quote From: norrislp I feel sorry for Jennifer, and if her life is really as bad as it sounds, her name may be in the obituary one day soon! Unless Jeffrey gets help immediately, she better run for her life!!! I am in a similar situation. I am in my 50's and I am unemployed. It is next to impossible to find a good job if you are over 50 unless you have some kind of College Degree. I can't afford to go to school as my husband is disabled and I am unemployed. Social Security Disability is not enough for anyone to live off of and that is all we have coming in. I have to charge my Health Insurance on my credit card, as I am scared to be without Health Insurance. I live in a small town in southeastern NC, so there are very few jobs around here. I have been trying to get a job with the State of North Carolina, since they have good benefits and good insurance. The jobs that I have applied for do not require a college degree and I know that I am qualified because of my 20+ years of experience working for Attorneys. I have heard people say that if you are over 50 the State of NC will not hire you, unless you have a very impressive degree or know someone with connections. That is a shame when there is supposed to be a law about Age Discrimination. Some friends of mine, who are also over 50, say they have the same problem. The thing is that we are at an age that our children are grown and gone and we are at a point in our lives that we can, want to and would love to find a good job. We would probably be the most dedicated employees that any Company would ever have. It seems like most employers want to hire the young, pretty girls that may or may not have a College Degree, but from my experience in working at different places, the people with EXPERIENCE ended up being much more valuable to the employer than the young ones. The last job that I had, I noticed that all of the young employees had cell phones that they stayed on many times during the day when they were supposed to be working and they had absolutely no respect for the boss whatsoever. You need to have a Powerful Show about this problem in NC and I am sure that this is probably the same problem in all of the USA!!! Anyway back to my home problem. A few months ago my husband put a gun to my head. I was in total shock and was at a point that I just didn't care if he shot me or not. If I go to the grocery store, he times me, and if it takes longer than he thinks it should, I catch hell when I get home. You just wouldn't believe all of the things that I have gone through. I have nowhere to go to live. All of my family lives way out of State. They might would take me in if I asked, but I have always taken care of myself and I am just too ashamed to ask for help. I was offered a loan to go to school, but I know how hard it would be to pay it back whenever I finished school and maybe finally found a good job, so I am scared to borrow the money. I have excellent credit and don't want to damage it. If I just had a College Degree and a good job, I think that I should be able to make it on my own. There should be some kind of Government help or Private Charities that help people like me!!! RideSallyRide NC Horse Lady
I left my h 3 years ago. I was 49. I did door to door sales for a year, and did taxes with a large company for the last 2 seasons. The schooling was $125. Some companies charge less.
You may not be able to get a well paying job, but working at McDonalds would be better than getting shot! |
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April 26, 2007, 1:45 pm PDT
Quote From: norrislp I feel sorry for Jennifer, and if her life is really as bad as it sounds, her name may be in the obituary one day soon! Unless Jeffrey gets help immediately, she better run for her life!!! I am in a similar situation. I am in my 50's and I am unemployed. It is next to impossible to find a good job if you are over 50 unless you have some kind of College Degree. I can't afford to go to school as my husband is disabled and I am unemployed. Social Security Disability is not enough for anyone to live off of and that is all we have coming in. I have to charge my Health Insurance on my credit card, as I am scared to be without Health Insurance. I live in a small town in southeastern NC, so there are very few jobs around here. I have been trying to get a job with the State of North Carolina, since they have good benefits and good insurance. The jobs that I have applied for do not require a college degree and I know that I am qualified because of my 20+ years of experience working for Attorneys. I have heard people say that if you are over 50 the State of NC will not hire you, unless you have a very impressive degree or know someone with connections. That is a shame when there is supposed to be a law about Age Discrimination. Some friends of mine, who are also over 50, say they have the same problem. The thing is that we are at an age that our children are grown and gone and we are at a point in our lives that we can, want to and would love to find a good job. We would probably be the most dedicated employees that any Company would ever have. It seems like most employers want to hire the young, pretty girls that may or may not have a College Degree, but from my experience in working at different places, the people with EXPERIENCE ended up being much more valuable to the employer than the young ones. The last job that I had, I noticed that all of the young employees had cell phones that they stayed on many times during the day when they were supposed to be working and they had absolutely no respect for the boss whatsoever. You need to have a Powerful Show about this problem in NC and I am sure that this is probably the same problem in all of the USA!!! Anyway back to my home problem. A few months ago my husband put a gun to my head. I was in total shock and was at a point that I just didn't care if he shot me or not. If I go to the grocery store, he times me, and if it takes longer than he thinks it should, I catch hell when I get home. You just wouldn't believe all of the things that I have gone through. I have nowhere to go to live. All of my family lives way out of State. They might would take me in if I asked, but I have always taken care of myself and I am just too ashamed to ask for help. I was offered a loan to go to school, but I know how hard it would be to pay it back whenever I finished school and maybe finally found a good job, so I am scared to borrow the money. I have excellent credit and don't want to damage it. If I just had a College Degree and a good job, I think that I should be able to make it on my own. There should be some kind of Government help or Private Charities that help people like me!!! RideSallyRide NC Horse Lady
This may not be what you want to hear, but this is how my friend did it: She lived with a relative, worked full-time as a waitress (true - no benefits) and went to college part time until she got her degree. There are fewer jobs for people over fifty (women and men), but companies have started to realize that older workers are more reliable and better educated than most of the kids coming out of high school now. You can also try starting your own business selling things on eBay. If you're in pretty good physical shape, you can learn a trade like hair dressing, welding, plumbing or electrician. Those are always going to be in demand and pay very well. There are plenty of places looking for workers taking care of the elderly. you can work as a private nurse for someone who is disabled or elderly or who needs childcare - those jobs often include room and board, although not usually health benefits. Good luck! |
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April 26, 2007, 2:22 pm PDT
Quote From: norrislp I feel sorry for Jennifer, and if her life is really as bad as it sounds, her name may be in the obituary one day soon! Unless Jeffrey gets help immediately, she better run for her life!!! I am in a similar situation. I am in my 50's and I am unemployed. It is next to impossible to find a good job if you are over 50 unless you have some kind of College Degree. I can't afford to go to school as my husband is disabled and I am unemployed. Social Security Disability is not enough for anyone to live off of and that is all we have coming in. I have to charge my Health Insurance on my credit card, as I am scared to be without Health Insurance. I live in a small town in southeastern NC, so there are very few jobs around here. I have been trying to get a job with the State of North Carolina, since they have good benefits and good insurance. The jobs that I have applied for do not require a college degree and I know that I am qualified because of my 20+ years of experience working for Attorneys. I have heard people say that if you are over 50 the State of NC will not hire you, unless you have a very impressive degree or know someone with connections. That is a shame when there is supposed to be a law about Age Discrimination. Some friends of mine, who are also over 50, say they have the same problem. The thing is that we are at an age that our children are grown and gone and we are at a point in our lives that we can, want to and would love to find a good job. We would probably be the most dedicated employees that any Company would ever have. It seems like most employers want to hire the young, pretty girls that may or may not have a College Degree, but from my experience in working at different places, the people with EXPERIENCE ended up being much more valuable to the employer than the young ones. The last job that I had, I noticed that all of the young employees had cell phones that they stayed on many times during the day when they were supposed to be working and they had absolutely no respect for the boss whatsoever. You need to have a Powerful Show about this problem in NC and I am sure that this is probably the same problem in all of the USA!!! Anyway back to my home problem. A few months ago my husband put a gun to my head. I was in total shock and was at a point that I just didn't care if he shot me or not. If I go to the grocery store, he times me, and if it takes longer than he thinks it should, I catch hell when I get home. You just wouldn't believe all of the things that I have gone through. I have nowhere to go to live. All of my family lives way out of State. They might would take me in if I asked, but I have always taken care of myself and I am just too ashamed to ask for help. I was offered a loan to go to school, but I know how hard it would be to pay it back whenever I finished school and maybe finally found a good job, so I am scared to borrow the money. I have excellent credit and don't want to damage it. If I just had a College Degree and a good job, I think that I should be able to make it on my own. There should be some kind of Government help or Private Charities that help people like me!!! RideSallyRide NC Horse Lady
NC Horse Lady,
Do you have a Battered Woman's shelter in your area. Check with your city hall, they should have that kind of information. Also, Most universities and community colleges offer financial aide. You will be looking for grants, such as, Pell Grants, displaced homemaker's, etc. Please note that once you get a degree, you should be able to support yourself, and if need be pay off a student loan. Please note that there may also be scholarships available, and you might qualify. Go to school, get another life, you don't deserve the one you've got. You need to be independent. Good Luck. May God Bless You! |
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April 26, 2007, 6:04 pm PDT
Quote From: norrislp I feel sorry for Jennifer, and if her life is really as bad as it sounds, her name may be in the obituary one day soon! Unless Jeffrey gets help immediately, she better run for her life!!! I am in a similar situation. I am in my 50's and I am unemployed. It is next to impossible to find a good job if you are over 50 unless you have some kind of College Degree. I can't afford to go to school as my husband is disabled and I am unemployed. Social Security Disability is not enough for anyone to live off of and that is all we have coming in. I have to charge my Health Insurance on my credit card, as I am scared to be without Health Insurance. I live in a small town in southeastern NC, so there are very few jobs around here. I have been trying to get a job with the State of North Carolina, since they have good benefits and good insurance. The jobs that I have applied for do not require a college degree and I know that I am qualified because of my 20+ years of experience working for Attorneys. I have heard people say that if you are over 50 the State of NC will not hire you, unless you have a very impressive degree or know someone with connections. That is a shame when there is supposed to be a law about Age Discrimination. Some friends of mine, who are also over 50, say they have the same problem. The thing is that we are at an age that our children are grown and gone and we are at a point in our lives that we can, want to and would love to find a good job. We would probably be the most dedicated employees that any Company would ever have. It seems like most employers want to hire the young, pretty girls that may or may not have a College Degree, but from my experience in working at different places, the people with EXPERIENCE ended up being much more valuable to the employer than the young ones. The last job that I had, I noticed that all of the young employees had cell phones that they stayed on many times during the day when they were supposed to be working and they had absolutely no respect for the boss whatsoever. You need to have a Powerful Show about this problem in NC and I am sure that this is probably the same problem in all of the USA!!! Anyway back to my home problem. A few months ago my husband put a gun to my head. I was in total shock and was at a point that I just didn't care if he shot me or not. If I go to the grocery store, he times me, and if it takes longer than he thinks it should, I catch hell when I get home. You just wouldn't believe all of the things that I have gone through. I have nowhere to go to live. All of my family lives way out of State. They might would take me in if I asked, but I have always taken care of myself and I am just too ashamed to ask for help. I was offered a loan to go to school, but I know how hard it would be to pay it back whenever I finished school and maybe finally found a good job, so I am scared to borrow the money. I have excellent credit and don't want to damage it. If I just had a College Degree and a good job, I think that I should be able to make it on my own. There should be some kind of Government help or Private Charities that help people like me!!! RideSallyRide NC Horse Lady
I'm praying for you and Jennifer. You need to get out of your situation. There are Women Shelters in every state I know. It's better to be broke and alive and start your life over because this relationship sounds like it's going to end terrible.
Please get out! GMCValrie |
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May 10, 2007, 5:43 pm PDT
Quote From: norrislp I feel sorry for Jennifer, and if her life is really as bad as it sounds, her name may be in the obituary one day soon! Unless Jeffrey gets help immediately, she better run for her life!!! I am in a similar situation. I am in my 50's and I am unemployed. It is next to impossible to find a good job if you are over 50 unless you have some kind of College Degree. I can't afford to go to school as my husband is disabled and I am unemployed. Social Security Disability is not enough for anyone to live off of and that is all we have coming in. I have to charge my Health Insurance on my credit card, as I am scared to be without Health Insurance. I live in a small town in southeastern NC, so there are very few jobs around here. I have been trying to get a job with the State of North Carolina, since they have good benefits and good insurance. The jobs that I have applied for do not require a college degree and I know that I am qualified because of my 20+ years of experience working for Attorneys. I have heard people say that if you are over 50 the State of NC will not hire you, unless you have a very impressive degree or know someone with connections. That is a shame when there is supposed to be a law about Age Discrimination. Some friends of mine, who are also over 50, say they have the same problem. The thing is that we are at an age that our children are grown and gone and we are at a point in our lives that we can, want to and would love to find a good job. We would probably be the most dedicated employees that any Company would ever have. It seems like most employers want to hire the young, pretty girls that may or may not have a College Degree, but from my experience in working at different places, the people with EXPERIENCE ended up being much more valuable to the employer than the young ones. The last job that I had, I noticed that all of the young employees had cell phones that they stayed on many times during the day when they were supposed to be working and they had absolutely no respect for the boss whatsoever. You need to have a Powerful Show about this problem in NC and I am sure that this is probably the same problem in all of the USA!!! Anyway back to my home problem. A few months ago my husband put a gun to my head. I was in total shock and was at a point that I just didn't care if he shot me or not. If I go to the grocery store, he times me, and if it takes longer than he thinks it should, I catch hell when I get home. You just wouldn't believe all of the things that I have gone through. I have nowhere to go to live. All of my family lives way out of State. They might would take me in if I asked, but I have always taken care of myself and I am just too ashamed to ask for help. I was offered a loan to go to school, but I know how hard it would be to pay it back whenever I finished school and maybe finally found a good job, so I am scared to borrow the money. I have excellent credit and don't want to damage it. If I just had a College Degree and a good job, I think that I should be able to make it on my own. There should be some kind of Government help or Private Charities that help people like me!!! RideSallyRide NC Horse Lady
You need to find a way out, a shelter, anywhere's... it's your life we are talking about here.
Best Wishes,
Angela |
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May 30, 2007, 11:20 am PDT
Quote From: norrislp I feel sorry for Jennifer, and if her life is really as bad as it sounds, her name may be in the obituary one day soon! Unless Jeffrey gets help immediately, she better run for her life!!! I am in a similar situation. I am in my 50's and I am unemployed. It is next to impossible to find a good job if you are over 50 unless you have some kind of College Degree. I can't afford to go to school as my husband is disabled and I am unemployed. Social Security Disability is not enough for anyone to live off of and that is all we have coming in. I have to charge my Health Insurance on my credit card, as I am scared to be without Health Insurance. I live in a small town in southeastern NC, so there are very few jobs around here. I have been trying to get a job with the State of North Carolina, since they have good benefits and good insurance. The jobs that I have applied for do not require a college degree and I know that I am qualified because of my 20+ years of experience working for Attorneys. I have heard people say that if you are over 50 the State of NC will not hire you, unless you have a very impressive degree or know someone with connections. That is a shame when there is supposed to be a law about Age Discrimination. Some friends of mine, who are also over 50, say they have the same problem. The thing is that we are at an age that our children are grown and gone and we are at a point in our lives that we can, want to and would love to find a good job. We would probably be the most dedicated employees that any Company would ever have. It seems like most employers want to hire the young, pretty girls that may or may not have a College Degree, but from my experience in working at different places, the people with EXPERIENCE ended up being much more valuable to the employer than the young ones. The last job that I had, I noticed that all of the young employees had cell phones that they stayed on many times during the day when they were supposed to be working and they had absolutely no respect for the boss whatsoever. You need to have a Powerful Show about this problem in NC and I am sure that this is probably the same problem in all of the USA!!! Anyway back to my home problem. A few months ago my husband put a gun to my head. I was in total shock and was at a point that I just didn't care if he shot me or not. If I go to the grocery store, he times me, and if it takes longer than he thinks it should, I catch hell when I get home. You just wouldn't believe all of the things that I have gone through. I have nowhere to go to live. All of my family lives way out of State. They might would take me in if I asked, but I have always taken care of myself and I am just too ashamed to ask for help. I was offered a loan to go to school, but I know how hard it would be to pay it back whenever I finished school and maybe finally found a good job, so I am scared to borrow the money. I have excellent credit and don't want to damage it. If I just had a College Degree and a good job, I think that I should be able to make it on my own. There should be some kind of Government help or Private Charities that help people like me!!! RideSallyRide NC Horse Lady
you say you're too prouwd to go ask for help from family who lives wayout of state?
Don't be ashamed honey it's not your shame to bear it's his! If your children are grown & you can go to another state then just go................. Perhaps another state & a new start might just be the ticket you need & want. When you get to where you're going try checking into the community colleges to see what jobs they have to offer & at the same time what programs are in place for returning students. There ARE private charities that are set up to help you but you need to seek them out. You'd be surprised the things that might be available to you & how you may be able to slip right into classes & getan associates degree in no time. At the same time you could work at the school or go through their counseling center to find employement. If there's a particular field that you're interested in then go to that field for example if you'd been working for lawyers perhaps looking into certifying as a Legal assistant. Then if there are apprentice jobs you could slip in that way. The experience of returning adults is normally reguarded very well by the community colleges & you may even qualify to test to get credit for your experience! If you're feeling unsure of what's available then do a search of the colleges where your family is located to see what they have to offer. Check into the programs offered in a field you may be interested in. See what Scolarships are being offered etc & check the jobs message boards. Check into programs that are partly supported by womens programs too. There are many looking to help their sisters.........:)
Don't be ashamed of asking for help in getting on your feet, because by doing so you are essentially taking care of yourself. You say with a degree and a good job you think you can make it & I know you can. It's out there honey so just get up & go find take it.
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