Replies to '04/24 Is This Normal?'

I agree that all kids should be taught all aspects of sex, always tell the truth is the right way, but also at the childs maturity level.  One 11 year old may not understand as another would.  I think this why we have so many young women getting pregnant and raped.  I am raising 2 girls myself one which is 11.  She is aware and luckily right now she does come and talk to me about this.  I still worry as she gets older and dating who is she going to date.  Are they going to be respecftful or are they going to just take what they want.  Then it doesn't matter if she made a promise or not because then it was taken from her. 

I have to disagree.  Young people are clearly not able to handle the knowledge that has been provided in sexual education classes.  We have huge numbers of pregnant teenagers, STD's are very common. 

The DARE program which was hailed as a great tool to combat drug use, is now disappearing because it turns out telling kids how to use drugs, actually encourages drug use.  Studies are showing this program is a failure.  (Having grown up with I can confirm that).  I'm not saying you shouldn't inform kids, but it is definitely the job of the parents.  Unfortunately our culture tells the youth that in order to be cool, you need to be having sex.  They are led to believe that sexual intimacy really defines a relationship.  This is not the case. 

I also thought it was interesting that the girl who opposed these promises, did not have sex until she was in her 20's, isn't this the best situation?  She waited until she was an adult and capable of making an informed decision.  Rather than being pushed and pressured into at an early age.

We try to explain well that this ball is not about sex. We don't talk about sex at this event. I talk to the fathers about their place and responsibility to be there for their children. The fathers sign a covenant to be pure in their lives and model for the daughters how they should expect to be treated by men in their lives.

This is why fathers want to bring their younger daughters to the ball. The daughters love to be the princess and it gives them a memory of beauty they will carry with them the rest on thier lives. This is a relationship building experience that life can flow out of. Let's raise the standard of living in our culture.