Quote From: rach4godAlthough I do believe 11 years old is a little to young to understand what you are promising to do or not do. I do beleive in the promise to remain a virgin. I was raised in a Christian home and at the appropriate time was taught the dangers in being promiscious... STD's, pregnancy, metal and emotional hurt. Like the previous poster said I was also too busy, I had too many other things I was focusing on, school, sports, relationships and that was something I steered away from. I believe having many sexual relations before marriage hurts a marriage, causes doubt in the spouse and many other issues. My parents shared with me some of there struggle because of there past and I made the promise to myself to not go thru that, and the only way not to, was to remain a virgin until marriage. I have never regretted my desicion and I hope my kids make the same. Although, we all make mistakes and fall short, but why not atleast aim to do the right thing.
I don't disagree with what you are saying with regard to teenagers and maybe folks in their early 20s, and if you met the right guy in your early 20s, then good for you. I have friends who met the right person in their teens and early 20s, they married and had a family early and I am very happy for them. But the ideal situation doesn't happen for everyone, no matter how hard some people try for that.
I did not marry for the first time until I was 36. (I have only been married once.) I would not have wanted to wait until I was 36 to have sex for the first time. Friends of mine who married in their early 20s tell me that I should have waited. That is easy for THEM to say. They don't know what it is like to go for that long without sex. They do not understand one bit. Not even one bit.
I am a Christian and other Christian friend with discuss how premarital sex "damaged them for life". Maybe they think it damaged THEM for life but it is presumptuous to claim that it affects everyone the same. I think some are being melodrmatic about it.
