Replies to '08/01 Know-It-All In-Laws'

Quote From: maddieo

God, I wish we could get on this show to discuss OUR in-law issues! Let's see..We adopt our daughter internationally and within one week of time at home with her, his parents are actually jealous of the time he spends at home with our daughter and me. Our daughter is sick, we are sick, and we are all tired and exhausted from the trip. Our daughter is not sleeping during the night because she has her days and nights mixed up due to the time change. The in-laws get angry because my husband cannot come to their home the following morning after our trip to set up a projector for them for a dinner party they are giving (ANDhe went and did it that afternoon but that wasn't good enough), They are angry that we asked that we be driven straight home from the airport after being in flight over 20 plus hours with a sick child, they are angry that we didn't cook for their Thanksgiving dinner (as we have every year in the past for every single holiday meal) because we had been home less than five days from another country, they are angry because we had Christmas dinner (that we invited them to attend) catered because I had been in the hospital several days beforehand with Giardia, a nasty intestinal parasite, I picked up in the other country. My daughter also had this parasite along with a respiratory infection. They have said terrible things about me as a mother and a wife. They have spread ugly rumors and comments about us to other family members. My husband has to be at their beck and call at all times. His dad says that when he calls my husband, my husband should drop everything and see about what HE needs regardless of the circumstances. We are both 40 years old and this is our first child!!! We have been in marital counseling for one year now because of the heartache they have created in our lives. It is terribly sad. They haven't asked about or wanted to see our daughter in over a year...not that I truly care at this point as I do not want them to have any bad influence over her or make our lives any more painful. We have had two counselors tell us...ours and THEIRS (of course they only went to about two sessions with her)... that they are narcissistic and that all of this is their problem/their issue. BUT it doesn't make it hurt any less. Our family has been torn apart. It is a nightmare. Our marriage has been through hell and back. Our daughter does not know them. I cannot stand the thought of even being in the same room with them anymore and have completely backed out of having any contact with them at all. It is a black cloud that hangs forever over our heads. We are pressured by other family members. We have done nothing wrong and have been labeled the black sheeps. My husband and I always say we wish we could be on Dr. Phil so he could tell them like it is. God knows, nothing we say or do has ever done any good! We'd have nothing to lose that's for sure!