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April 22, 2007, 6:31 pm PDT
 Quote From: ltalucci Regarding Amanda, Pierre, and Yolande- I have to say, not one of them seems to have respect for each other. Amanda needs to know, that Pierre will not put himself in the middle of a situation when it comes to his mother, that's just the way it is. Amanda needs to respect the fact that Yolande is the woman that raised the man she loves, and no matter what, in Yolande eyes there isn't a woman that is good enough for her son. I'm not saying that Yolande is right, however Amanda needs to give her mother-in-law a chance to see that she can live up to her expectations of the perfect wife for her son, this falls under the catagory that you always want the best for your children. Amanda needs to always know, and remember that no matter what, that is his mother and respect her for her position in the family.
John and Chrissy- You both need to realize that a slap today, will be a closed fist punch tomorrow. Sounds to me that Charlene is trying to protect her grandchild. Why would any parent want their child growing up in an environment where his parents are physically and verbally fighting? They need to read and live by that poem titled "Children Learn What they Live." It sounds to me that they don't love each other enough, to accept, respect, and celebrate each others differences. They obviously can't even put their differences aside for the sake of their child. Sure, the baby is a baby now, but he is growing and learning from his environment, how can you, as parents, the people he depends upon to love and protect him, allow him to live in this manner. My daughter is 19, although she is away at college now, and not home as much, we still do not fight in front of her, nor have we ever, ever raised our hands to each other, whether alone or not. Maybe we are fortunate, we don't fight, maybe a debate, never a fight. I have seen parents that have fought in front of their children, and I have to say, those children have grown up with problems. Please, if you can't love and respect each other at least love your son enough, and not get married, maybe you will get along much better. Although, this would not be the conventional family, it would promote a healthier mind for your son, as well as a happy child. When we marry, we are to leave our parents and cleave unto our spouses. It's necessary for adult children to set boundary lines that need to be respected by everyone outside the marital walls. I wonder what the parents would do should the roles be reversed and their adult son begins to tell them how to live their lives...hmmm...they would no doubt protest, wouldn't they?? Any parent who doesn't respect the privacy of their children and their families does not care about what's in their best interest, only that their every whim be served. I call those parents, selfishly controlling and home wreckers. That 40 year old BOY needs to protect his family from his overly controlling, disrespectful mother, and set some boundary lines. He can do that without being disrespectful to her, by just considering what is in his wife's and his child's best interest, and learning to say no. His mother obviously doesn't care what is happening to his family. Shame on her!! And shame on him for allowing it to go on. A loving mother raises a good son to be a good man, and then lovingly, and respectfully shares him as he makes his own choices in HIS world, as a MAN, not her BOY. No wife needs to learn to be subservient to a controlling terror of a mother-in-law. If the mother-in-law wants to be respected by her daughter-in-law, she can darn well earn it. It's not a given, just because she carries the title of mother. Her position in her extended family is NOT to cause trouble. |
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April 25, 2007, 9:05 am PDT
Quote From: ltalucci Regarding Amanda, Pierre, and Yolande- I have to say, not one of them seems to have respect for each other. Amanda needs to know, that Pierre will not put himself in the middle of a situation when it comes to his mother, that's just the way it is. Amanda needs to respect the fact that Yolande is the woman that raised the man she loves, and no matter what, in Yolande eyes there isn't a woman that is good enough for her son. I'm not saying that Yolande is right, however Amanda needs to give her mother-in-law a chance to see that she can live up to her expectations of the perfect wife for her son, this falls under the catagory that you always want the best for your children. Amanda needs to always know, and remember that no matter what, that is his mother and respect her for her position in the family.
John and Chrissy- You both need to realize that a slap today, will be a closed fist punch tomorrow. Sounds to me that Charlene is trying to protect her grandchild. Why would any parent want their child growing up in an environment where his parents are physically and verbally fighting? They need to read and live by that poem titled "Children Learn What they Live." It sounds to me that they don't love each other enough, to accept, respect, and celebrate each others differences. They obviously can't even put their differences aside for the sake of their child. Sure, the baby is a baby now, but he is growing and learning from his environment, how can you, as parents, the people he depends upon to love and protect him, allow him to live in this manner. My daughter is 19, although she is away at college now, and not home as much, we still do not fight in front of her, nor have we ever, ever raised our hands to each other, whether alone or not. Maybe we are fortunate, we don't fight, maybe a debate, never a fight. I have seen parents that have fought in front of their children, and I have to say, those children have grown up with problems. Please, if you can't love and respect each other at least love your son enough, and not get married, maybe you will get along much better. Although, this would not be the conventional family, it would promote a healthier mind for your son, as well as a happy child. ARE YOU KIDDING ME???????????? It is Pierre's job to stop the verbal abuse that his Mother has inflicted upon his wife. You heard DRPHIL......abuse! This woman (the MIL) has NO right to say any of these things about her DIL, and her son needs to get a backbone and move out of that house immediately. Amanda does NOT have to prove anything to that woman, and the fact that no one woman would be good enough for her son says she is the one with the mental problems. Respect is a two way street. Yolande has shown NONE. This is not Amanda's fault one bit, and the fact that you chose to tell her that she needs to shape up and prove herself to her MIL tells me something. |
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September 12, 2007, 9:48 am PDT
Quote From: ltalucci Regarding Amanda, Pierre, and Yolande- I have to say, not one of them seems to have respect for each other. Amanda needs to know, that Pierre will not put himself in the middle of a situation when it comes to his mother, that's just the way it is. Amanda needs to respect the fact that Yolande is the woman that raised the man she loves, and no matter what, in Yolande eyes there isn't a woman that is good enough for her son. I'm not saying that Yolande is right, however Amanda needs to give her mother-in-law a chance to see that she can live up to her expectations of the perfect wife for her son, this falls under the catagory that you always want the best for your children. Amanda needs to always know, and remember that no matter what, that is his mother and respect her for her position in the family.
John and Chrissy- You both need to realize that a slap today, will be a closed fist punch tomorrow. Sounds to me that Charlene is trying to protect her grandchild. Why would any parent want their child growing up in an environment where his parents are physically and verbally fighting? They need to read and live by that poem titled "Children Learn What they Live." It sounds to me that they don't love each other enough, to accept, respect, and celebrate each others differences. They obviously can't even put their differences aside for the sake of their child. Sure, the baby is a baby now, but he is growing and learning from his environment, how can you, as parents, the people he depends upon to love and protect him, allow him to live in this manner. My daughter is 19, although she is away at college now, and not home as much, we still do not fight in front of her, nor have we ever, ever raised our hands to each other, whether alone or not. Maybe we are fortunate, we don't fight, maybe a debate, never a fight. I have seen parents that have fought in front of their children, and I have to say, those children have grown up with problems. Please, if you can't love and respect each other at least love your son enough, and not get married, maybe you will get along much better. Although, this would not be the conventional family, it would promote a healthier mind for your son, as well as a happy child. It dosen't matter if yolande raised her son or not, when your kids become adults, the parents are supposed to let go, especially when they get married, it even says in the bible "Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother behind, and cleave onto his wife" That mean when a couple gets married, the wife/ husband is supposed to come before everyone, else even his mom. Whats wrong with the mothers of these mama's boys is that they suffering from a power struggle and a jocasta complex, and need to not only mind their own business, but also get professional help. |
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