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April 25, 2007, 7:34 am PDT
Wisdom
Quote From: housewife52With my husband and me, I have always come first. We didn't have trouble with his parents. I think there can be balance where the husband loves and respects his parents but his wife comes first. For example, after our kids were born, I preferred to stay home on Christmas morning and chill. Prior to this, the siblings inlaws and grandchildren had always met at his parents. I enjoyed it until we had our own children. I didn't want to rush and get over to my in-laws. I told my husband that I understood that his mother liked to have all of her kids and grandkids on Christmas morning,and that I didn't want to hurt her feelings. He said that the only thing that mattered was how I felt. Of course he didn't say those exact words to his mother, but he did explain to her that we had decided to stay home on Christmas morning. From then on we went on Christmas Eve. I didn't have to say anything. When will husbands learn that thier wives come first? You and your husband display a lot of wisdom in this matter. It did become time for you to have your holiday with your family unit. There is no disrespect in that. I did so with my parents when they were still with us and we don't even have children. My parents understood that the time had arrived for my wife and I to have our holidays together and that no offense was meant. They understood because that is what they had done at my age. My mother would have had a talk with me had I not realized that it was time to put my wife first.
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