Quote From: clking15 26 years ago I was placed for adoption and recently I have come into contact with my birth mother and after this I have come to the realization that I am glad she gave me up. All of my life growing up I always knew that I was adopted and had always wanted to meet my birth family. My experience with my birth mother has not gone well as I find that she is a very selfish person and that makes me glad that she gave me up because I believe that I would have grown up the same way.
Today we don't have any contact as she has broken it off because she believes that I don't have a right to know where I come from, I want to know my birth father but she refuses to give me any kind of information about it she has decided that this is the best thing to do is to just cut off contact completely.
I still believe that there is hope that I will find my biological father but I thank the good graces above that I grew up with a family who loved me and I was happy.
I am a birth mother and I understand both sides of this story. You didn't say why she would not give you the info of your birth father. I am asking for my own reasons also. I don't have the best feelings trould my own father of my child. I want to be truthful with him, but maybe like your own birth mother I want to protect him from a person that is drug addict and acholoic and has other problems, and then again she may feel that he has no right to meet you because he was not there when she was pregent with you and was not there when you where born. She did in fact do one unsheif thing, and that was giving you up for adoption. So please just pray and maybe she will give you the info that you disere, and remeber that giving a beatiful baby up is like giving a pice of your heart away. I also hope that you don't think that I am siding with her, but just trying to maybe help you to understand that she may or may not have a good reason for this. I have one more thing to add try and ask other family members they may give you some info that you are looking for. God Bless
Donna
