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July 28, 2005, 5:53 am PDT
coming togethetr as a family
Quote From: missbillyI feel for you on the loss of your father as I have lost my own father back in May of 1997 to cancer. He was diagnosed with bladder cancer a couple weeks before Christmas of 1996 and it rocked my world. My dad and I did alot together and were very close and when we lost him six months later it was very hard on all of us. He ended up having pancreatic cancer also and they operated on him and a routine 2 hour operation took six hours because they had come across problems and had to call a specialist in before completing the surgery. I miss my father everyday and it was like I said hard. I think about him everyday but I have moved beyond it, however the source of moving beyond my fathers death is not helping me cope with it. I lost my dad in 1997 and three years later on October 29, 2000, I myself ended up in my mothers shoes, having lost my husband to a car crash at the age of 47(him) and I became a widow at 38. To this day I have not been able to move on with my life. I feel like my life is over. I cannot even help my daughter with the loss because she was 14 when he was killed and my son was 12. I want so much to try to help my daughter but am at a loss because I did not lose my dad until I was 35 and I don't know what my daughter is feeling she won't talk about it and she doesn't want to talk about it and pushes it to the back of her mind. you need to come together as a family and part of it is talking about your husband and their dad. we talk about my dad and what we did all the time and that we miss him yeah, as thats the truth. only keeping it in will it fester. somehow you have to come together as a family and do things as family as you once did before, but minus one. Keep his memeory alive as as maybe doing a scrapbook together as a family might help or maybe counsiling might help. But you need to do something. also ask God for help as he is always there for you if you just ask. He always answers if you just learn to listen to with your heart.your kids need you so much. my family talks about my dad and what we did and where we went and everything with him, don't let his memeory die also, I know you miss him so much but his memeory deserve to live on thru you all and you know he is watching you from above and he loves you all so much. I am sure he didn't want to leave either. I know that you all can get thru this together as a family and by talking with a counsilor or someone you can do it. you need to get back as a family unit as your huband wants you too. your children depends on you. think, on getting some help please to get thru this. I know you can do this. I will be praying for you and your family. don't forget that maybe scrapbooking your husband and their dad's lifes might help also. look at all the great times you had. the great memories will always be there. I will always be here for you. 2nephi
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