Replies to 'Afraid to Ask for What You Want Sexually?'

My husband and I have good sex when I finally get in the mood.  It isn't a lack of interest, I am VERY interested, but he doesn't listen.  I have told him over and over that he has to talk to me to turn me on.  It is the old "to turn a woman on turn her ears on and then the rest will follow".  I don't want dirty talk, just the simple stuff:  "you're beautiful, I want you, etc".  I feel like there is no desire.  I know he wants me (that is obvious physically hehe), but he just doesn't get that we women do not work with visual as well as men.  Why can't he get that I just need to hear that I am wanted!!!  

I have talked to him at length about this, he says he understands, but nothing changes!  Why doesn't he listen to me!!!! 

My husband and I have good sex when I finally get in the mood.  It isn't a lack of interest, I am VERY interested, but he doesn't listen.  I have told him over and over that he has to talk to me to turn me on.  It is the old "to turn a woman on turn her ears on and then the rest will follow".  I don't want dirty talk, just the simple stuff:  "you're beautiful, I want you, etc".  I feel like there is no desire.  I know he wants me (that is obvious physically hehe), but he just doesn't get that we women do not work with visual as well as men.  Why can't he get that I just need to hear that I am wanted!!!  

I have talked to him at length about this, he says he understands, but nothing changes!  Why doesn't he listen to me!!!!