Quote From: raven12Yes, you as a mother should get involed when he has abused your daughter once, he will do it again. When he does it when they are married is that he will tell you this is my wife stay out of it. You need to show your daughter that there are other fish in the water. You NEVER accept another person abusing you. and saying that they love you and they didn't mean to do it. That is a BUNCH OF BULL. Like my daughter told one of her brother's girlfriend,our mother does not hit him so you do not have hit him.Your daughter feels that there is nobody else in the world for her to fall in love with. Open you dauther's eyes, if he is abusing now it will not get better only worse. If he is changing then he must be completely change before you get engaged not after. When ever a person says that hes loves you and abuses you the has brainwashed you to believe that you can not get along without him. Show him you can. You will only end up like a lot of these other couple who are always fighting in front of their children. Think about it real hard and long. Everybody wants to be in love also, but I don'"t when it takes my health and happiness away.
Amen to getting involved. If he has abused her before, he will definately do it again. But I know first hand, a parent can only do so much, My daughter is with an abusive man right now and because I ttried to get her and my grandchildren out of that situation, I am no longer allowed to see any of them, and haven't in about 15 months. I pray everyday that they are safe but I seriously doubt they are. I can only imagine what they are going through. But I would do it again because I knew this man was dangerous and I did not want my daughter to be with him.
Hopefully Jessica will wake up and smell the roses before it is too late.
