How right you are! I am a woman who is divorced from a man because of the manipulative, controlling and undeniably criminal threats against me by my in-laws, to gain complete control over my life and the life of my child. I was to step completely out of the picture as the mother of my child, with my mother-in-law taking full charge.
My first clue was them adding an extention on their home complete with nursery, playroom and a bedroom for my husband. Bizarre? Not even close!
After the baby was born, she refused to visit becasue she wanted to see the baby without me being around. The baby was days old and I was nursing. This is when the major campaign began. I was told I "shouldn't be surprised when I was pulled over by the police and they found drugs in my car. I'd be locked up and then mother-in-law would have the baby" I reported this threat to the police to have it on file. Then I was told " not to be shocked when I came home from work and the baby was gone. They have enough money to see to it that I would never be able to find or see my child again." This family was clearly displaying severe anti-social personality disorders. I was on the recieving end of their ambient abuse. However, to the outside, they appeared to be the "loving, doting" grandparents that were being denied the joy of seeing their grandchild.
After these threats, I certainly, saw to it that my child was not around them without my supervision. Since that wasn't good enough from them, I stopped them from seeing the child. That's when they decided to incite the "Grandparents Rights thing".
You might ask, where was my husband during all this? He was too busy playing with and accepting the gifts he was being given my them including, a new sports car, clothing that would knock your eyes out, trips to exotic destinations, top of the line media toys and on and on.
Just before my husband was served with divorce papers, Mother-in-law died. As it turned out, she was messing around with a younger man who died of aids a few years before. Hmmm....
During the divorce process, my ex never spent time with his child ( I clocked his longest "visitation" at 17 minutes) and hasn't had any contact with her to this day. ( His choice) She is now 22, graduated college, is going on with her Masters degree, is happy, accomplished and extremely well-centered.
Certainly, my child was denied a relationship with her grandparents. But, the real tragedy is that her grandparents and her father were so disfunctional any chance of a relationship would have been extremely damaging.
If I had to do it over again, I would change nothing except the choice I made for a husband.
