Replies to '07/06 “Call it Off!”'

As wife, mother and grandmother I can understand Ellen's & Bruce's concern for their daughter Jessica. She's only 22 and still needs to grow up. They of course want the best for her, as I want the best for my children. Now Jessica has been using drugs too, and Matt has spent time in rehab and is now in recovery. It's been 60 days of being clean for him, since the show. Recovery for Matt will be a lifelong journey and Jessica has agreed to let Dr,Phil help her off the drugs and with her life. If they get married now it will fail, it will be a disaster. Jessica also needs to heal her relationship with her mum and dad. Dr.Phil is right, by agreeing to a 90 days no contact time and in that time Jessica will be in therapy and Matt will be keeping his regimen of recovery.  Both of them, especially Jessica will have a clear mind and body to make important decisions for their lives. Now it's important here that Ellen and Bruce support their daughter by not showing her judgement . Nagging at her and being offensive wont help. They need to open their hearts, and show their daughter their love and the pain they feel. It won't be easy, it will be darn hard. I speak out of experience as a mother who nearly lost her daughter to heroin abuse 7 years ago. Thank God she's alive and is now a happy mum of 2 beautiful children.

I was happy to see that Jerry and Jessica have accepted pre-marriage counseling from Dr.Phil.I believe that  Jerry is going along so fast with Jessica just to spite his siblings, who are at them. I do think Jessica is still immature as she's not thinking of Jerry's age , position and future. I hope that common sense prevails. Jerry's siblings should now just butt out and keep quiet, as barking at the couple does more harm than good. I hope that with Dr.Phil's help they will see the light.

Sincerely,

Lory(Australia)