Quote From: myownself2Hi, You're not the only one. I'm 19 years older than my husband and we've been together for 30 wonderful years. We lived together for almost 6 years to make sure and we've been legally married for 25 more. We do everything together and also have watched almost all of the "same age" couples get divorced. I'm sure there are a lot of other couples like us. I believe it's the strongest loves that will face adversity for their love. We were fortunate because our families and friends were accepting and loved and accepted us both. I don't think anyone can judge another persons love.
Perhaps YOUR families are friends were "accepting" because age was the ONLY big factor between you. The guests appear to have many more factors OTHER THAN AGE. Nineteen is still the age of a CHILD. And if the parents are decent and caring, they have a DUTY to offer their opinion. Hopefully, a nineteen year old will listen, but most "kids" think they know everything (it's human nature).
And nobody has to "live together" to "make sure" a marriage will work. That makes no sense. Marriages work because people are mature and committed and responsible and honor their vows. Trying out a person before you marry him/her makes no sense...you can do that as you date. ALL STATS SHOW that living together before marriage IN FACT is an indicator that a marriage will end in divorce. You and your husband are the EXCEPTION, not the rule.
I am very happy for you, but don't think that your case is an example of what NORMALLY happens. Sadly, that is not the case.
