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Replies to '07/06 “Call it Off!”'
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May 1, 2007, 7:09 am PDT
 Quote From: flthomcat If parents are responsible, loving, good and bright, they have a DUTY to let their loved one (especially a child of 19) know what they think. That "child" will do as s/he pleases, but at least the parents have tried their best to enlighten him/her.
Age IS a factor when one person is supposedly old and mature and the other is still a teenager (19). Most of us were still speeding, blasting music, thinking about who to date on the weekends, spending too much time on our hair and wardrobes (etc) when we were 19. The ONLY reason a 30-yr-old would want a child is because s/he has NOT grown up himself yet. At age 24, I was teaching high school kids. They were KIDS....I never saw them as adults. They were immature, impulsive and still had much growing up to do. I did as well!
Hopefully, kids at the age of 19 will give some weight to what their parents think, providing the parents DO know best. However, as humans we ALL think we know everything and we often rebel against authority (ex. our parents). The more our parents dislike someone, the more we like them.
The reality is that these types of marriages normally end in divorce. There a few exceptions, but VERY few. Let's hope the parents will be there to help their children pick up the pieces after they've made a costly mistake in their young lives. God bless them all! That's just it, at 19 he SHOULD be out having fun with his friends and getting the whole party lifestyle out of his system BEFORE settling down. They should be dating, and finding out about themselves and other people, and what they like and dislike in others. After only two weeks he proposed ? Lady that was an impulse move, like most 19 year olds, he was taken by the Mrs. Robinson attraction, and you will get old and grey, and he will move on, or do you think its a good idea to raise your husband with your kids ? Hey, at 19 this is a guy YOU can CONTROL, and make him do your bidding, but I warn you, the novelty will fade and he'll wake up one day when his Brain has finally grown up and matured and say "what the hell was I thinking ?" And guess what ? You'll be in his rearview mirror. Yes, yes I know you "love him " and he "loves you" and you are the exception, but tell me this why do you feel the need to defend yourself on National TV if you are the exception ? Hmmm. Filthtomkat, sorry if I got your name wrong, too early to be near a keyboard, I agree with you, and I hope he will consider what his parents are saying, but the unfortunate thing is, many of them don't until its too late. |
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