Quote From: dlcalbaughI was 33 when I fell in love with a man who was 20. I had 3 children at the time. We got married when he was 21 and I was 34. We have been married for almost 9 years and we are very happy and very much in love. My husband is a terrific step father and has always referred to my children as his children. We are not the same tpe of people as the people on the show, as in personality and levels of responsibilty, so maybe that is why it has worked out so well. I agree that the couple on the show today should not get married because the man who is 19 seems to be very immature and inexperienced in life. But sometimes relationships can work out very well, even when people are 13 years apart in age.
And you don't feel guilty that you'd robbed your husband of his youth? I think to say "the couple on the show today should not get married because the man who is 19 seems to be very immature" is ridiculas. He's "immature" compaired to what a 30 yr. old? I imagine he would seem immature. My kids *all seem immature* & that's not because they're really immature it's because they haven't had the same life experience I have & so when I hear of decisions they're making I'm thinking "what?!" Thinking back to *when I was their age* I realize that the mistakes they're making I'd made too & while we want them to learn from our mistakes * experiences* some thing we have to learn ourselves! We can't be thinking & acting like a someone 13 yrs. our senior because we haven't had those same experiences YET. If I'm with someone of my *own age* & I'm 21 yrs. old then he or she is on the same *maturity level* as me & what to someone in her 40's may look "immature" to us may look fine just because we're on the same level. I don't think that there can't be any age difference & frankly hubby is 6 yrs. older than I but I think when it is 10 or more years we're coming from completely different times & don't even have the same memories in the way of times. If I say "when we were kids" I mean when *hubby & I* were kids.
So I think my question to you was what were you doing in your 20's & do you not feel guilty that your husband missed out on those things?
