Replies to '12/19 The Honeymoon's Over!'

While i do agree that her dishonasty is surely a huge factor in the math of this union. I have to say I have been married to one like donny. My husband when we meet did not have the same experences as i did. I had alot in my past such as drug abuse, physical abuse,different partners ect. It was hard for me to come into a realationship with this history. I found it difficult to tell him everything because of his reaction like "oh my god you did that ?" or the " you liked doing drugs?" well I did once I'd seen how those things or those kinds of people effected me and got away only to a man who would judge me for doing them in the first place. Then I felt smothered because of a number of things.He would get made if i ever talked about anything in my past even good times like as if to say , with a past like yours how could you have any good memories, I also wasn't use to someone being so kind to me,I actually thought it made him look wimpy. He would write 4-5 page letters on how he loved me and couldn't do without me, oh my i wanted to stamp desperate on every page. No matter what I did or said he'd take it. A far cry from anyone I dated before. I had become my ex's and he was me. He'd say things like your my best friend my whole life, i'd think things like sappy sappy sappy. Yet when I'd open up to him at times very few times he'd attack my views or thoughts saying things like thats because you only dated jackasses before me. I found it hard to talk without judgement yet felt smoothered by his kindness. We since then have found a common ground. I know now that he does love me thats just his way of showing me. He knows now I'm not trying to live in my past when I talk about it and that i don't long for the yesterdays. I hope she'll see that she does deserve to be treated good. And he finds a way not to make her feel so ashamed because where she has been has brought her to him and made her the person he says he loves.