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May 11, 2007, 8:53 am PDT
Shivers Up My Spine
Quote From: ljsefbMy 1st husband was just like that untill he killed himself but I was afraid everytime he took the kids after I left him because it didnt stop.He would take them and then follow me to see if I was with someone else It hurts to get hit and have some one watching you all the time. He would call me from his cell and say look out you bedroom widow and he would be standing ther and that was 12 year of hell . She needs to get away far away. Yes, this sounds like my first husband as well... we finally did get a divorce.. I don't know where I found the strength, because I had NO ONE... He even had my family convienced over a period of 10 years, until the last 2 or 3 months when my dad caught him in the act. By then, my dad was living 2000 miles away, and was just at our home for a visit. I was alone, with 3 kids. Social Services would not help me, because I made to much money in their book, but not enough to pay my bills, or afford day care, and I had a vehicle that was worth over the allowence for help. It was a mess... I finally appliced for legal aid and got that, somehow!! I had numerous restraining orders, pictures I had hidden of me beaten, as well as having him arrested several times for domestic violence. He would stalk me, take his car and hit mine in the bumper, to get my attention, leave notes on my car window, call my employeer. When there was a court order in effect, he would wait for me to go to work, and then come to the house, he still had a key, because he refused to give it up, and move stuff around in the house, whether it was my night gown from the bathroom to the bed, or the stuff in the fridge, he would re-arrange things, just to let me know he had been there. He had been obsessed with me since I was 12, and at the time he was 17!! When I was in high school, he would follow the bus to school, come to the school at lunch, and watch me through the gate, follow the bus home, tried all the time to get me to have sex with him, until he finally got me to give in, then I was HIS property. Everytime I was out of his site, when I came home he would search my clothes and smell my under garments.. He was always trying to get me to have sex with his friends or other relatives.. He has visitation with the children, who are now 15, 13 and 13.. all 3 boys, who think there dad is their best friend.. I can not forget what he done to me, I still have nightmares, and it has been 8 years since our divorce. I'm sorry, but this just brought back old memories. I think Jennifer will be just fine with the support she has, and I wish her the best of luck and love!! Jeffery needs to be in prision, or in a nut house!!!
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