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Replies to '05/07 A Dr. Phil Family on Fire: House Intervention, Part 2'

 
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confused
May 7, 2007, 9:05 am PDT

Narcissist?

Quote From: lesdis5

Hey Dr. Phil

 

Even though we have not seen part one here in Norway yet, I am guessing who is leaving the house, and that is - Gene.

 

He seems to me to be like my ex husband - a psycopath. Withour empaty and responsabillity.

 

I through my husband out in the end. Did not see any reason why I should stay married to that son of a b...! The problem was that  by then was 3 months pregnant. That matter also explain this man. He was thrilled with me being pregnant (had been married for 9 months by then) but all of a sudden it seems without any warning - because we had many lovely years also, but one day he said: either I abort the child or he would divorce me.

 

I said: I divorce you! This he did not like at all. To punish me he punished my daughter for 20 years by refusing to see her, saying he did not have time. To much tennis-playing! And so on.

 

When he realised he was dying he got in touch with her, telling her that it was ME who kept her away form him!

 

That huge lie may have done something to our relationship, because today my daughter is being very unempathetic to me.

 

I love your shows, dr. Phil, I only wish you would focus on people with the above mentioned "personal disturbance".

 

Yours sincerely, Sidsel Dahl

How ironic! I have recently began to research narcissism and feel 100% sure that my husband is a narcissist. I hate him, but cannot get rid of him. He lies, cheats and is nothing but a bum. Why is it that these people have this power over us? Why can I not walk away and never look back? I have began seeing a counselor, but it is thrown in my face daily. I would love to see some shows on this topic and even be willing to appear on the show.
 

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hopeful
May 7, 2007, 7:35 pm PDT

You were strong - now get help

Quote From: lesdis5

Hey Dr. Phil

 

Even though we have not seen part one here in Norway yet, I am guessing who is leaving the house, and that is - Gene.

 

He seems to me to be like my ex husband - a psycopath. Withour empaty and responsabillity.

 

I through my husband out in the end. Did not see any reason why I should stay married to that son of a b...! The problem was that  by then was 3 months pregnant. That matter also explain this man. He was thrilled with me being pregnant (had been married for 9 months by then) but all of a sudden it seems without any warning - because we had many lovely years also, but one day he said: either I abort the child or he would divorce me.

 

I said: I divorce you! This he did not like at all. To punish me he punished my daughter for 20 years by refusing to see her, saying he did not have time. To much tennis-playing! And so on.

 

When he realised he was dying he got in touch with her, telling her that it was ME who kept her away form him!

 

That huge lie may have done something to our relationship, because today my daughter is being very unempathetic to me.

 

I love your shows, dr. Phil, I only wish you would focus on people with the above mentioned "personal disturbance".

 

Yours sincerely, Sidsel Dahl

Dear Sidsel, You did the right thing in divorcing your husband. It is a shame that he lied to your daughter and alienated her from you. Why don't you and your daughter get some family therapy to work out whatever is between you? It would be such a waste if your ex-husband was allowed to destroy your relationship with her.

Vanessa

 
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angry
May 31, 2007, 8:36 am PDT

till death due us part........NOT

Quote From: lesdis5

Hey Dr. Phil

 

Even though we have not seen part one here in Norway yet, I am guessing who is leaving the house, and that is - Gene.

 

He seems to me to be like my ex husband - a psycopath. Withour empaty and responsabillity.

 

I through my husband out in the end. Did not see any reason why I should stay married to that son of a b...! The problem was that  by then was 3 months pregnant. That matter also explain this man. He was thrilled with me being pregnant (had been married for 9 months by then) but all of a sudden it seems without any warning - because we had many lovely years also, but one day he said: either I abort the child or he would divorce me.

 

I said: I divorce you! This he did not like at all. To punish me he punished my daughter for 20 years by refusing to see her, saying he did not have time. To much tennis-playing! And so on.

 

When he realised he was dying he got in touch with her, telling her that it was ME who kept her away form him!

 

That huge lie may have done something to our relationship, because today my daughter is being very unempathetic to me.

 

I love your shows, dr. Phil, I only wish you would focus on people with the above mentioned "personal disturbance".

 

Yours sincerely, Sidsel Dahl

The big problem with all these cheating husbands is they think it's not all that bad to cheat.  Well, after my husband cheated (escorted the mistress to have an abortion), we remained married another 20 years....happily.   It wasn't until his death that all those 'unfaithful episodes' surfaced.  I wondered for the next few years (and still).........if someone is going to come out of the blue to claim they are his children.  Perhaps I watch toooo much TV, but that doesn't change the situation...........I remain happily unmarried / widowed for 14 years.   Any advice?  Dare I mention any of this to my two grown boys??         Sincerely,  Just Me
 


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