Replies to '08/07 Torn Between Two Husbands'

I just got out of a bad relationship, no a good relationship so it would seem, but a bad ending and some bad basis. I have been told the exact same thing, that I need to not get into another relationship. I never wanted to be in one so badly as it seems that would be helpful to get me through, but hearing this story makes me feel that I could not give all my emotion to another yet. I am healing broken and I think that this woman is too. The only way to begin to heal is to be away from ex and quite possibly, sad as it would be for brent, away from him as well so she can heal correctly instead of with him as a vice. He then will also need time to heal, but I think will learn from the situation as will she. The ex could have someone else. There are many fish in the sea. Why does he have to have this one? And why does she have to have both? You absolutely cannot be in this situation and tell either one of these men, "I love you with all my heart" and that is what people in a marriage need to hear. I think she will also need counseling to begin to see her ownself and grow.

She is not as hurt as she leads on. she is selfish because she is having the best of two worlds. She has a husband and she has a lover. I do not belive her when she stated that she was not having a sexual affair with the ex husband. She totally has no respect for the vows she took nor any respect for her now husband. It is simple you choose one or the other. for the new husband buddy you have been to patient about this matter. remember that saying "let it go if it comes back its your's if not it was not meant for you" I know for a fact that you will not have any problems finding a mate and have some respect for you and your family, because she sure is not going to do that. good luck

I can't say to much as I am getting my cake and eating it to. Live in boyfriend and boyfriend with benefits. It's hard to say.

Absolutely incredible the lack of understanding that Orlena demonstrated in regards to personal boundaries relating to her marriage.  It was a complete and total disconnect to her behavior and the hurt that she was inflicting on the one man she has pledged to love and honor.  Dr. Phil was right, Brent needs to make the decision for himself and about himself.  Living with a ghost husband is the equivalent of marital suicide . . .

 

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