Replies to 'Raising a Special Needs Child'

I also have a son who is 10, who was recently diagnosed with ADHD and possible ODD.  Because I took so long deciding if medication and an official diagnosis would do more harm than good, he also developed some anger issues.  He is a very sweet boy, but he has a hard time controlling his temper and when his medication level begins to be less effective, he can't help but argue with everything we say.  I pulled him out of school last year and homeschooled him, because he was so far behind.  Once he began his medication the results were amazing.  He was able to focus and retain more information.  He didn't argue, he was extrememly sensitive to others, and he just seemed to be able to make a connection with people that he couldn't make before.  Unfortunately, his medication is still needing some adjustments, as he seems to be developing a tolerance after a month or so of taking it.  If possible, I would recommend removing your son from a school where he is being picked on.  My son will be returning to a private school this year with his other brothers.  He is still behind, but he can learn better now and I'm certain he will be able to catch up over the next couple of years.  Also, your son has a legal right by federal law to assistance whether he is homeschooled or in the public school system.  Have the school test him, if they refuse, they are breaking federal laws.  Assistance is available from the public school system and he is entitled to it, but some one on one time with you for a school year, may benefit your son more than years of special education.