Hello Everyone,
My husband was exactly like the gentleman on the Dr. Phil show. He didn't do crack,his drug of choice were given to him by a doctor.
He had a bad back, so the doctor would give him morphine,vicodin,and zanax. He wouldn't take them as needed he would take them when ever he wanted,so he would always run out before his new perscriptions were due. Then he would go doctor hunting until he found another doctor to give them the exact same things. Now he has two doctors, each not knowing the other exists. He would also go to a different place to get the second doctors prescriptions filled and he would'nt use our insurance so someone would catch on.
It doesn't matter what your drug of choice is, it does matter when the drug takes over your life.
My husband lost his job and he had a very good paying job, with a company car and all the perks that go along with it. He was in management, so we were going good.
We each had a car, we just bought our dream house. We had our first grandchild. Then the drugs won him over.
We still had a child in highschool. She was seeing her Dad pass out, not just at home, but while driving the car!!
I did go to his doctor and let him know what was going on. My husband would put the blame on ME, saying it was me not him. Drugs make a person very sneaky and a good liar too.
Finally when a doctor would believe me he would find another one to take there place.
I thought maybe a family intervention would work, but that made him so mad at me. Then I thought "TOUGH LOVE" so my daughter and I moved.
My husband stayed at our house (it wasn't forclosed yet) with no water, no electric, no heat, no phone. After a month someone in his family, thinking I was the bad person and it couldn't be as bad as I said it was came to get thim.
He did the same things there. Pass out after making all kinds of food (none that made any sense), he would fry soup of boil peanut butter. He wouldn't remember doing any of this.
My husband passed away 11-27-05 from a drug over dose.
I still will never forgive myself for doing the Tough Love. I did take him to the hospital,but they can only keep a person for 48 hours, uinless the person wants to stay. After he sobered up and said he didn't do this on purpose they let him go and told me to call the police if this ever happens again. He didn't need to be arrested he needed an inpatient program.
I don't know if this will help anyone or not, but I do know, if I had to do it all over again I would do alot of things different., and hopefully my husband would still be here on earth where he belongs, not in heaven
Lora
