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May 8, 2007, 8:12 am PDT
no it's not an unreasonable desire
Quote From: gmom94I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. The first 6 months we made love alot. Then it went to just a booty call about every other month. Then I had an auto accident. Since then, about once a year I can talk him into making love. He says "Is this what you want?" Otherwise, it is a booty call, with no foreplay about every 4 months or so. He does like his porn. He says he loves me, or he wouldn't be here. He kisses me everytime he leaves, holds me before he goes to sleep, kisses me everynight and says he loves me. Maybe it is because I am too fat and not pretty enough. I really do not know. I wish he would love me enough to make love to me. Is that wrong?
Have you talked about it to him?
Is the porn getting in the way?
Now - I strongly believe that you can't change your body to please someone else. I have changed mine because it was result of using excercise as a crutch when I couldn't find a way to tell my husband I needed to be touched and loved.
But if you don't feel good about yourself - start there first.
What have you tried so far to get his attention? Remember there could be all sorts of things going on with him too. Try to be understanding.
It's not easy. And me giving that advice seems like the pot calling the kettle black - I'm struggeling with it daily.
Good luck - I'll check in later.
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