Quote From: jettavIf you truly want to help your friend then you have to be able to present that facts of what is really going on. Now, don't get all bent out of shape, I just finished responding to two of your messages and they are contradictory when it comes to her parents, like I said, they either know or they don't and if they do know, then they are guilty of allowing the abuse to go on and they need to be reported in the same way that this guy is and if you go to a responsible adult that you have confidence in, you may get help with this and if the parents do not know, they NEED and DESERVE to know but in all honesty, if their daughter and this guy is living with them and she is being as abused as you have presented her then "how can they not know"? As you said, you are a kid your self and if all this is true that you are saying about this girl, I am sorry for you that you have been pulled into this situation but don't be afraid to step up to the plate for your friend which you have already started doing just by coming to the message boards asking for help but the next step is to be honest and not get so offended by responses that you don't like for I personally am only worried about an abused victim as you have presented here and everything that I have stated in my posts is based on my experiences and those who I know on a personal basis, All I have to say at this point is to follow your heart in the situation and whatever you decide to do or not to do, just remember it is about your friend, not about you and it is her well being that may be at risk here, don't be afraid to go out on a limb to help her and if you can't help her be consistent in trying to find some one who can. And if you do find some one to help here, be honest and don't leave any details out and don't try to protect the guilty, present the facts as you know them don't be contradictiry in your info casue it could harm the process for your friend.
Hey Cecelia,
I just wanted to say that I really agree with Jettav on this. I have read all of the messages and I know you were a bit insulted, but from where I am standing...I really see it that Jettav was abused and is simply trying to say everything possible to make sure that doesn't continue to happen with someone else. I believe that we are all three on the same page as far as abuse goes. You wrote in to ask for help, so that is the first step right there. It's clear you really care about your friend. I also can tell by the many things Jettav has written that she cares very deeply about this girl. I too care a lot about her. I wasn't abused , but I have very, very strong feelings about this issue. Once abuse starts...it doesn't end until someone steps in and does something about it.
Good luck to you and I am so proud you posted. Remember...you can make a difference.
jamrod
