Quote From: normalitaIs this possible? I have heard that it is. I am wondering if men have the same symptoms as women?
My husband and I have had some significant life changes in the last couple of years. Situations that were very heart wrenching and we had to make some tough decisions. We have had to hang tough and draw a very hard line in the sand and stand by it and dare anyone to cross it. Some of it was with immediate family, which is hard, other of it was work related.
All this aside, we came through it ok and the decisions we made have put us in a better place now. But now, my husband goes through these bouts of depression. You can't reason with him. He brings stuff up from the past, that we can't change or do anything about now. He mopes, he's cranky, he's tired all the time, he can't sleep, he craves sweets. He has all the symptoms of menopause. Am I crazy? I should be the one acting like this and I don't have any of it. I have a mood swing or two now and then, but that is it.
Is there medication for him? Could he take what women take? I am looking for a way to calm him down, make him more like his old self. My husband is usually Mr. Nice Guy. Very layed back, always has a joke to tell or a funny story, he is liked by everyone he meets, just a super nice guy. Now, we have days where he is just a beast and I can't stand him.
If anyone has any information I am all ears. I would like to get as much information as I can, so when I approach him with what I suspect, I want to be ready. Any help would be appreciated.
Thanks, Norma
Sounds like your husband is stuck in the emotions of whatever you have gone through. He could be stuffing down anger with sadness and depression. He needs to connect with his emotions that he thinks are inappropriate to feel, acknowledge them as legitimate, recognise whatever it is that he feels he lost, and move through it. (What I mean by "lost" could be a sense of confidence, or self-worth of some kind.) If he seems to be stuck in depression, he's probably feeling sadness. Anger and sadness are two sides of a coin, in order to work through it, he will need to connect to the anger he's denying. Sorry if this sounds complicated, but I've found that it works for me. I tend to fall into depressions because I have a bad habit of not allowing my anger out, I was taught girls don't show those kinds of emotion and its selfish to feel that way.
Hope this helps.
