Quote From: marthaannaI feel for you so greatly! What a dificult position to be in, but not an impossible one. Like Dr.Phil says, "It's time to get a back bone!" Starting by doing whatever it takes to get the oldest in line. Like you said, the younger ones will imitate the older ones. Set your rules, and don't take any lip!! Be willing to yell, inflict punishment, and stick to your guns. If your child steals from you, let them know you will call the police and report it. If you can't stop them from stealing from YOU, the police will be involved soon enough! Let them get a taste of such punishment BEFORE it means time in prison. You will be doing them a favor! As you go about setting up these rules, be about getting yourself together too. Don't let them see you crying about them. Their behavior calls for anger!!! How DARE they?? I know one girl who's mother caught her sleeping in the bath tub with the water nearly drowning her because she had taken drugs. This is not a "correct" response, but effective. Her mother chased her though the house thrashing her with a belt, telling her she'd better never do it again! You can bet her daughter didn't!!!
Good luck and
Keep us posted!
MarthaAnna
Hi Tara,
How are things going? Telling a person what to do is a lot easier than doing it! Do you see any more hope now than you did?
Martha