Replies to 'Too Much Discipline?'

Quote From: miekje

this is indeed a more serioud situation, than i knew form you first story, but i still think punishing him so severe isn't the solution. because his father is doing drugs you should clearly explain to him wat effect it has on him, and i don't know how his father looks, but maybe you could let him see a really bad junkie sometime, so he'll know what he'll become if he does drugs. because he has an example that does drugs, you have to make him understand it, not just say you can't. It's like they can't curse in one house, but they can in another, then it's very hard to keep them from cursing. only this is clearly more serious. the tv issue might be because he is overpunished, or because he is just a kid. my stepson is 9, and he is of pretty hihg maturity too, but he's still a kid, so you shouldn't be treating him as an adult too much. in some things you'll probably see that he is just 10. i still don't know how long the punishment started, but i really think that making him understand the consequences is more important than the punishment, because he will have to make the decision on his own in the end, and if he doesn't know why he shouldn't do it, and he doesn't agree, he will still be doing it, but maybe in the house of your ex. so i think two weeks punishment will be enough, and some pictures of a film of how the body of a junkie looks like, i don't know if its something like the lunges of osmeone who smokes, but if it is so, you should ask your doctor if he can arrange something, and let him see a junkie or something. i'm sure he doesn't want to end up like them. like this, he can make his own choice, which will probably be the right one. it might shock him, but that is really what you need, cause a ten year old, can't really see the consequences himself.