Quote From: rrslj1I hate you are so bitter about this. I'm not sure if I understand - but it sounds like you're saying your mother gave you up for adoption and later gave birth to your brother but gave him up for adoption also.
I can't relate to your feelings about being adopted but I can relate to adopted children. I have adopted two children which are full brother & sister (same biological mom & dad). Several people have made comments to me about the birth mother being horrible because she gave two children up for adoption but I have to say - I admire her. She knew she could not care for these children and she cared enough to give them up. My children are still young (4 y/o & 1 y/o) but I have already found the birth parents. I am saving all the contact information for them because I'm sure the day is coming that they will want to meet their birth parents. I have told my oldest child about being adopted although she doesn't fully understand now, she will in time. I think honesty is the best thing in this situation. I don't think there should be family secrets because it never stays a secret. It always comes out in the end & the consequences are always worse than if everyone would have been honest from the beginning.
I hope you can get past your feelings about your mother & things will get better for you. Good luck!
Thanks for your reply.
I am bitter because of yes she had me and years down the line she had my brother and then after him she had another child who by the way she gave up as well. So yes she gave up three children and later on she gave birth to two other children who she did keep. This woman gave birth to five children and she keeps two..... That is why I am bitter to her, but not to the world. :)
I was never adopted, but I was pretty close. I in a way am glad I was never adopted. I guess I learned so much from the different foster homes and group homes that I can say that I have travled around the world... In so many words. Thanks for your reply..
