Quote From: mommy2brysonGood for you for getting out. It's amazing the advice some people have when they've never experienced abuse. My dad physically abused my mom, brother and me for years. My mom stayed and is still with him. I, like Dr. Phil, look deep into the situation. There is a reason people abuse like they do. There is a reason people abuse drugs, etc. I'm not okaying it but there is a reason. For a long time I tried to figure out why. Why never came. But I took up for my mom and brother and got the brunt of it a lot of times. One thing I did learn, stand up for yourself. Abusers are bullies. When my dad realized I wasn't backing down and I would kill him before he would me, he didn't try to hit me as much.
It's not the physical abuse that hurts as much as the memories and the days I suffer from depression because of the screwed up childhood I had. My mom stayed and I know there is a reason she stayed. I can't understand and I probably never will, but she did. I think about the times she couldn't go to work because of the bruises or the shame I saw on her face because I had a black eye for defending her. She did what she knew how to do. Live.
THERE IS NEVER NEVER NEVER ANY REASON FOR SPOUSAL ABUSE OF ANY TYPE. OR FOR CHILD ABUSE!
THAT SAID MOST BULLIES WILL BACK DOWN IF SOMEONE ELSE CONFRONTS THEM AND THIS COUPLE SHOULD BOTH BE SMACKED HARD WHICH THAT SAID SOUNDS DIFFERENT FROM WHAT I AM TRYING TO IMPLY.
HOORAY FOR THE GRANDPARENTS FOR REFUSING TO BACK DOWN!
I DO NOT THINK THAT THIS FATHER DESERVES TO EVER HAVE THOSE KIDS BACK AND THE MOTHER SHOULD NOT HAVE THEM EITHER! THE POOR GRANDPARENTS SHOULD NOT BE PUT IN TH POSITION OF HAVING TO RAISE 3 YOUNG CHILDREN EITHER, AT THEIR AGE; BUT AT LEAST THE CHILDREN WOULD BE LOVD AND CARED FOR
I THINK THE MOTHER AND FATHER OF THE CHILDREN AND THE FATHER'S MOTHER ARE TOO FAR GONE FOR ANY HELP AND THE CHILDREN NEED TO BE SOME WHERE SAFE.
