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Quote From: schnauzerlover

Just turned 40. Have 3 children age range 10-20. Don't work outside of the home. Starting Graduate degree in June '07. Married 20 years. Live in Germany. Seems like a great life, but suspect husband is emotionally abusing me, too. I've changed myself so many times, and he's still not happy. I've been to counseling with Psychiatrists, Psychologists, and Social Workers for over 7 years. I take one antidepressant for over 13 years now and just started one more two months ago because he said I "need something". Everything, every move I make is a game according to him. I am immature and have made his life miserable (his words). However, he won't consider divorce. I am against it, but if it would make him happy, I told him maybe he should do it. All I do is cry because you name it LITERALLY, and I have changed it to make him happy. I had gastric by pass and lost over 100lbs 4 years ago, had a tummy tuck 2 years later for a flat stomach, and this past September '06 had breast implants. I look like a teenager again (body wise). He's still not happy even though we have more sex (which was another issue that was "my fault"). If I talk, it's wrong because I say the wrong things or I say sarcastic or hurtful (in his opinion) things. If I don't talk, he says I'm playing a game and freezing him out to be nasty. I don't know what else to do. My last Social Worker, who I saw every week for 4 years says that there is nothing wrong with me. I really want to believe it, but it's so hard when he seems so unhappy and blames me for how unhappy he is. I think I've run out of options other than killing myself or having a labotomy.