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Replies to '05/22 The True Life of Marcia Brady'
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May 24, 2007, 12:20 pm PDT
 Quote From: mikey234 We have to be thankful that Maureen has come forward with this family situation. It doesn't really matter if it was because she wanted publicity or whether she really wants help. This is a situation happening every day and it needs to go very public. With the help of Dr. Phil maybe we can make the courts recognize these situations more easily. Most of these manipulative (sociopathic) family members are charming to the outside world. But they systematically turn their victims against those people around them. Especially anyone who can potentially make their lies fall apart. They divide and conquer. Everyone often has a different story. They often make other family members their accomplices but then eventually make them their victims too. Only the people who believe them are allowed in their inner circle. Everyone else is treated as if they are crazy, stupid or a criminal. The only good thing is anything they accuse you of is generally a reflection of what they are doing which can give you insight to what they are doing.
This truly needs to get out to the public. A lot of people step away from their families and don't try to help. After all it is usually a toxic relationship. Sadly that is exactly what the controller wants. It allows them even more time exert their power.
We have personally been dealing with a similar situation in our own family. Unfortunately my sister has passed away leaving all her money and possessions to one of her son's who manipulated her carefully and calculatedly over a long period. She leaves three other children and many grandchildren but he made her feel that only he loved her. He first talked her into giving him her house by saying he would look after her if she did. From there he did not let the family visit. He set up his power and control and got exactly what he wanted. And strangely believes he absolutely deserves what he has recieved.
Make this loud and public Dr. Phil. And Maureen, do what you have to do. This needs to be heard and your public profile will help just that. It is happening too often and too much.
I think you're right ~ a lot of times a big family problem can be traced back almost exclusively to one member. Of course there are two sides to every story, and, of course there will always be threads of mutual resentment entwined into any family plot ~ however, when you've got one member who is clearly dark and agressive, one member who does outrageous things and doesn't seem to care if he hurts people, one member who exploits everyone else ~ then, it is very different from your average family 'conflict.'
I have an older brother ~ I can't say that he is completely antisocial, but in recent years, largely due to his drinking, he has acted in a very antisocial manner. He is so mean and abusive that I've chosen not to have anything to do with him anymore. Since he refuses to change or even acknowledge the need for change ~ there's very little that can be done. He's actually said before, "I'm mean; that's just who I am." (He offered that as an 'apology' after a tirade of verbal abuse that left me in tears.)
I hope that Dr. Phil can hold Maureen's brother's behaviors up to the cold light of day and expose him for what he is ~ so that it will be apparent to her father. |
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