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I do understand how you feel.  Now, you need to ask yourself, "What would mom say about me sitting here feeling so bad?"  I bet she knows how much you love her and I bet she would not want you mourning her so badly,  if she was a wonderful person she would rather you celebrate her life and not mourn her death.  You need to live life to it's fullest and keep your mom in your heart. Honor her by living.  I am saying a prayer for you and for her.

 

Best wishes

Stacy

My mom died on December 31, 2006 and my husband's mother died on January 12, 2006 so this was just a double trajedy to our family.  As bad as it was when my mother in law died, I never expected it to be worse when my own mother died.  I still cry daily and everyday at work she left me a message on my machine and told me to call her when I got a chance.  Everyday I still look at that machine after lunch and will it to blink .  ( I might add that it stopped working after she died.)  I remember when she was in the hospital and asked me to spend a whole day with her during Christmas break but I was trying to be there for my foster children and keep their world intact ( they have enough turmoil in their lives.) and finish Christmas shopping for her and myself.  I knew in the back of my mind that I wasn't going to have her much longer.  The day she died we had 8 hours to spend with her in her hospital room because she chose Do not resucitate and wanted no more surgeries.   I couldn't stay in the room like my brothers and sisters did. I loved her and went back and forth but couldn't handle the gasping for breath and the pain she was in .  NOW I WOULD TAKE THAT DAY AND DO IT ALL OVER AGAIN.  ANYDAY.