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May 30, 2007, 8:29 pm PDT
I hear you...
Quote From: tinalunsfordMy husband has severe degenerative bone disease and we are experiencing problems in our marriage. I could totally relate to the couple at the beginning of the show. It has effected our whole family and I find myself feeling depressed and alone. I try to be supportive but there are alot of days when he just doesnt want to try and the more those days add up the harder it is for me. I think alot of our problem is where do we go from here when the doctors dont have answers and the one who is sick feels like giving up. We are in our 30s and have two children to raise. I cant do it all and quite frankly am tired of trying. I can relate as my wife became ill with pneumonia one month after our marriage and then after several months of recuperation was eventually diagnosed with fibromyalgia (had nothint to do with the pneumonia obviously, but just pointing out that illness has been part of our married life from the beginning). We've been married for nearly 18 years and there are some days that are just hard to accept. On those days, it's easy to get depressed...in fact I had an emotional "crash" myself just over 3 years ago. I know this whole situation played a part along with some other things. Fortunately, God has sent me a few really close friends who understand my frustrations and allow me to lean on them when I need to. The challenge is to balance that need to lean with periods of being strong for my wife. I wish I could say that I have more strong days than sad days, but it all depends. It DOES put a strain on your marriage, and there have been times when I've been ready to throw in the towel, but then I catch a glimpse of that person I married. She's still in there somewhere. You're going through a grieving process. Give it time. After 18 years, I still have times when I get stuck in the anger mode. It's not fair, but neither is life. It stinks, you're right. Connect with supportive friends. You may be the only one who can encourage your husband not to give up. That's a pretty important role for you to play. But I know it's hard when you need encouragement yourself. Keep praying and take one day at a time. One step at a time. Hang in there and know that you're not alone. Sometimes just knowing that gives me strength.
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