Quote From: mcdaisy Hope this does not sound like male bashing "but" : My spouse was severly injured 24 years ago
I learned to manage the house, school, a job and provide care for him all this time. I have often said that if it were the other way around , he would not have been able to manage. "Some" men do not seem to have the dedication or wear-with-all to deal with multiple major life problems. The man on the program today, Sal, focused on his losses and was not able to put himself in his wife's place. Disability is a family matter. Education is needed, as mentioned. Empathy must be learned along with healthy coping skills. I agree with this writer. That couple needs a support group with others dealing with MS. The feeling of isolation for both individuals can be overwhelming. If none available in their area I am sure their local hospital or checking the internet could provide info where to get help. I had to start a group for TBI to have peer support and the national association sent help to get organized. Also seeking a deeper meaning to life helps to give satisfaction when things don't go by the book. Faith in God gives hope and strength and new meaning to life and love.
I knew a woman who said she was too young to be saddled with a husband who had become a paraplegic in an accident. He was hit by a drunk driver.
On the other hand, I have a friend who devoted his life to making his wife's life easier after she contracted ALS.
I have a husband who has mental deterioration. His doctor wanted to spare us the expense of a cat scan so we can only surmise it might be alzheimers. I really think if the situation was reversed and it was me, he would remain a devoted husband. He was always a kind and considerate nurse when I was recuperating from anything.
It isn't gender.
Also, I don't think Nicole's husband meant it to come out like he did when he said he didn't sign up for it. I think he meant that he had a problem he wasn't equipped to understand yet. I think he will be kind and considerate and loyal.
