Quote From: jaycee554I'm currently reading Tuesdays with Morrie and find it absolutely riveting. After the show, I find myself debating buying One More Day. I know what the problem is - my family doesn't communicate well, and we were brought up not to show tears. Do you think maybe a letter is the answer? jaycee554
A letter would certainly be a start. My father was much like you describe your family. He was very reserved and rarely showed any emotion. I developed into a different kind of guy and I decided I really wanted him to know how I felt before it was too late. I mailed him a letter and talked about everything important to me. I was surprised to get a long and thoughtful letter back. It's something I treasure greatly.
Later in life, I was visiting one day when we had to stop for gas. It was just my father and I at a very busy multi-pump station. Roughly thirty people were in sight. I grabbed my father by the arm and kissed him on the cheek in front of the world and told him I loved him. He wasn't comfortable at all, but he didn't pull back either. He sort of mumbled "I love you too son."
Last year both my parents passed away. I have never regretted putting him "on the spot" like that. I am so glad I did. As Mitch Albom said, there are a lot of days available to us. It's just that we don't use them like we ought .
I wish you all the best, but remember that even if you don't get the kind of response I did, you still will have said what you need to. That alone will be an enormous comfort later. Good luck.
