Replies to 'Ready for Marriage?'

Listen, if you going to your hobby group isnt even okay with him- HE has issues. It has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with his own insecurities. He loves you; he is scared that he will lose you, so he smothers you. He is going to create what he fears the most- losing you- because of his paranoia and possessiveness. You are only six months into this relationship, and this is already getting to you; it isnt going to somehow magically get better.

You have a choice to make. You should be able to have everything in your life that brings you happiness; you should not have to choose between your friends, hobbies, and your boyfriend- that is so high school! Your first choice is to continue to tolerate him telling you to be careful about your choices- a veiled threat if you ask me- and eventually you will be spending all of your time with just him. The love and tenderness that you share will become resentment and obsession- it would be such a shame. Your other choice is to come right out and tell him that you understand he is a bit insecure because of past issues, but that you should not have to pay for someone elses misdeed. Let him know that you enjoy spending time with him, his children, etc., but that you also enjoy spending time with friends and your hobby group. He should also get an outside activity/hobby that will keep him busy and bring him a sense of accomplishment/pride.

You should continue to listen to your instincts- postponing the marriage was the right thing to do. Getting married so soon would be a big mistake, you dont deserve to do that to yourself. You can be happy and have a healthy relationship but it takes work- and you cant do it alone, he has to be willing also.