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June 1, 2007, 9:10 am PDT
 Quote From: jackdaddy I am married to a wounderful woman that has bipolar she also is on her meds and it is under control. She has a wight issue but we are working on that as well becasuse we want to have our second child next sometime. well she also seems to run in six month cycles with her up and down it seen to be june and december are when the downs are she was so bad one time that she was admitted to the pyc word so she could get the meds she need and be seen by a dr becouse at the time she was with child. well hear it is june and she keep tell we see how it is this time what happens with tell me that may be playing it up a bit for effect and to get what she wants, but if this is so there no way I can tell her I think with out the water works and the her saying you know I am bipolar and I do this every 6 mos. way dont you belevel me then I am the jerk so I just keep quite and just watch what happens am I a jerk for even posting this do I just have to take it and keep tell myself this is just what happen every June and Dec. You know there all the talk about how bipolar effects the person with it and not a whole lot of talk about how the peolpe that love then cant say anything about this becasue there sick. well I dont know what to do I guess I will just dow at the feet of the almighty Bipolar that we can only hope to keep in check and hope it dosnt get out and runamuck. I dont want this sound like I dont care for what my wife it going thur because I do, I am just tried of have to be quite and understand that is has a disorder. Well I dont what to do this anymore I dont want to just keep the Monster cage with meds I want to KILL it once and for all and be done. I was thinking this the other day on this subject what if the reason peolpe with bipolar have it is becasue of that meds there on to fight it they are addicted to and when they stay off for a time they acted funny is becaue they are going thur with drawels. I know that sounds mean but I dont want it to, but let think the first thing the Dr do when they think someone has bipolar to get then on drugs and really there is no real way to look at the brain to see what is really going on inside and teat the root problems Bipolar may just be simptem of a deeper problem and that is why it never go away. mental health issues are the only ones that work backwards from drugs to cures and really it seen like there is no cure for it but I think that is wrong but I dont know what is maybe. to all the peolpe with bipolar I am sorry if I offend you I dont want to I just want to get you all fixed and off yours meds for good, not having to keep going to your dealer for an other fix. Maybe it something in our food, air and water becasue I think this is a modern issue like the last 100 yrs. I just dont know what to do but I am tried of watching my wife suffer with it, and know that there got to be a fix for that do not invole drugs. peolpe please reply to this if you think I am wrong let me know, If you think I am right let me know that too. One other thing why do the drug cost so much, and why do most of then lead to wight gain that dont seen right. peolpe with depression that may have body image issues getting put on drugs that cause wight gain there by worsing the image issue. what since dose that make. diagnosed with bipolar and post-tramatic stress for over 15 years. If there was a way to deal with this illness without drugs, trust me, I'd of found a way by now. But there isn't. I have been on so many different meds throughout these years I can't even count. Some are better than others. I'm on a good combo right now....Wellbutrin, which does not cause weight gain...abilify and Klonopin for stress. None of these cause any weight gain. I tend to gravitate towards depression moreso than mania although I do have some mania occasionally when under extreem stress.
You are not a jerk for your thoughts regarding bipolar. If you didn't care about your wife you wouldn't have bothered to post here today. I commend you for that. Did you ever go in to see your wife's pdoc with her? He can explain a lot to you so maybe you will understand a little bit better. Maybe suggest her trying different meds that won't cause weight gain. This suggestion is just a starting point for you. There are tons of articles on the internet on the subject too.
I wish you lots of luck. Keep posting!!!! It helps!!!
Susan |
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June 1, 2007, 8:08 pm PDT
Quote From: jackdaddy I am married to a wounderful woman that has bipolar she also is on her meds and it is under control. She has a wight issue but we are working on that as well becasuse we want to have our second child next sometime. well she also seems to run in six month cycles with her up and down it seen to be june and december are when the downs are she was so bad one time that she was admitted to the pyc word so she could get the meds she need and be seen by a dr becouse at the time she was with child. well hear it is june and she keep tell we see how it is this time what happens with tell me that may be playing it up a bit for effect and to get what she wants, but if this is so there no way I can tell her I think with out the water works and the her saying you know I am bipolar and I do this every 6 mos. way dont you belevel me then I am the jerk so I just keep quite and just watch what happens am I a jerk for even posting this do I just have to take it and keep tell myself this is just what happen every June and Dec. You know there all the talk about how bipolar effects the person with it and not a whole lot of talk about how the peolpe that love then cant say anything about this becasue there sick. well I dont know what to do I guess I will just dow at the feet of the almighty Bipolar that we can only hope to keep in check and hope it dosnt get out and runamuck. I dont want this sound like I dont care for what my wife it going thur because I do, I am just tried of have to be quite and understand that is has a disorder. Well I dont what to do this anymore I dont want to just keep the Monster cage with meds I want to KILL it once and for all and be done. I was thinking this the other day on this subject what if the reason peolpe with bipolar have it is becasue of that meds there on to fight it they are addicted to and when they stay off for a time they acted funny is becaue they are going thur with drawels. I know that sounds mean but I dont want it to, but let think the first thing the Dr do when they think someone has bipolar to get then on drugs and really there is no real way to look at the brain to see what is really going on inside and teat the root problems Bipolar may just be simptem of a deeper problem and that is why it never go away. mental health issues are the only ones that work backwards from drugs to cures and really it seen like there is no cure for it but I think that is wrong but I dont know what is maybe. to all the peolpe with bipolar I am sorry if I offend you I dont want to I just want to get you all fixed and off yours meds for good, not having to keep going to your dealer for an other fix. Maybe it something in our food, air and water becasue I think this is a modern issue like the last 100 yrs. I just dont know what to do but I am tried of watching my wife suffer with it, and know that there got to be a fix for that do not invole drugs. peolpe please reply to this if you think I am wrong let me know, If you think I am right let me know that too. One other thing why do the drug cost so much, and why do most of then lead to wight gain that dont seen right. peolpe with depression that may have body image issues getting put on drugs that cause wight gain there by worsing the image issue. what since dose that make. I have been on a plethera of drugs for bipolar in the past. One drug made me gain 50 pounds in 9 months, and I wasn't even pregnant!! The drug was Rispiradal...not everybody gains weight on this drug, but I sure did. Then, I was switched to Depakote, which made me gain another 10 pounds. I am currently taking Lamictal and Abilify, and I have lost 50 pounds. Neither Lamictal or Abilify cause weight gain.
Drug costs??! Although research is very expensive, I think the drug companies are raking in plenty of profits...kind of like the oil companies...
Addiction?? I don't think anybody can get addicted to bipolar meds. Bipolar disorder is a REAL illness, and therefore, it requires REAL medications to treat it. Is a diabetic addicted to insulin? Their bodies certainly react badly when they don't get it. Is an epileptic addicted to antiseizure meds? Look what happens when they don't take their meds. The point here being that meds are very necessary for treating bipolar disorder. If there are undesirable side effects, then you and your wife should do some research online to find meds to talk with her doctor about. Google "Bipolar Medications"...you'll get a wealth of information.
Also, I've been called a "hypochondriac" enough times to take issue with you saying that your wife is "faking it" or "playing it up" to get what she wants. The tears are real...perhaps some counseling for both of you...individually and together...might be helpful in teaching you both how to communicate with each other constructively. If your wife is still having wide swings, in spite of the meds, then she should talk with her doctor about that...a change of meds or an adjustment of the dosages of the meds she is on might be in order.
It is helpful for me to keep a mood diary...it might be helpful for your wife too. She can take it to her doctor as evidence of the need for a change. You could keep a record of your observations, but you could be treading on thin ice to do so.
Keeping quite isn't always the best thing to do. But do be gentle...try not to come across as harsh...let her know how much you care, and how much you want to help her. Anger isn't helpful at all.
Unfortunately, you can't kill the monster that Bipolar is...but it can be tamed with the right medications...an essential part of treating bipolar. I prefer to live my life forever on medications than to die without them...meds have made such a huge difference for me.
Was that honest enough?? Please do come back and post...maybe tell your wife about the message board...there are a lot of people who understand just what you and your wife are going through...
Becky |
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