Quote From: norcal2314i was just wanting to see if anyone could give me some advice. My boyfriend and i have been together for 1 year and are currently living together. we both talk about getting married and our future together, but we both seem to have trust issues. we met under weird circumstances where i was finishing up ending a previous relationship, so i can understand why he may question it in the back of his mind. but for some reason i keep questioning him and hes never done anything. i get so scared of him getting bored and looking elsewhere and when hes with his friends doing things that he wont tell me about, and i cant seem to let go of it. hes tired of being questioned all the time for no reason and i dont blame him at all, i would be too. i just didnt realize how much i did it. i am just curious if any one else has had this type of situation and how they over came it. this has been the longest relationship hes been in, so he says that should show me something. which i understand also, i just dont know how to start to overcome my insecurities and fears so i can stop pushing him away.
don't be so hard on yourself. you say he's never done anything but why do you think you're feeling that way? i'm 41 years old and i will tell you to listen to your intuition. I believepart of your problem is insecurity but i don't believe thats the whole thing. i recommend you read the book co-dependency no more. it will help. would he consider getting counseling with you? a professional might be able to give you practical ideas to overcome your insecurities and help him as well. i'm not fully understanding your e-mail. are you saying when he goes out with the boys he won't tell you what he's been doing, or are you just thinking that? if he won't tell you, he's hiding something. i had a bf that told me the same thing your bf told you about the length of our relationship, he told me that should be a sign that he loves. after i hired a private detective i found out he cheated on me on a consisent basis. it was nice for him to have someone to come home to when he didn't have someone else to see. anyway i don't believe it's all you. let me know how you are doing
